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Post by tiredoffoolishness on Sept 17, 2011 8:39:55 GMT -5
I am so glad I came across this forum! My husband and I have been dealing with CbMD actively since 2005(I say actively because we had to hunt her down by any means for an address to file visitation papers even though CS $ was going to her address)..we have been dealinng with her bitterness of keeping the child away to now lies to suspend visitation. We have taken her to court for contempt a few times for her trying to make her own rules regarding visitation. She frankly can not stand me b/c I went through hoops to try and locate her. She accused us of disconnecting her utilities,harrassing phone calls(did not have her #) and even tried to get me fired from my healthcare job(I had no acccess to her account because she was not a patient) but she called and said I accessed her records which was found untrue..her issue now is she has been sending child w/o his Ritlin,sending mildew smelling clothes,shirts with s or either too short. My husband asked her about this and she flipped out saying we were destroying his clothes, etc.NOW we just received a motion to suspend visitation due to this and accusations she has against my 6 and 4 year old saying they told my Stepson(10 yrs old) that he was not their real brother and I did not want him there..my children do not know any drama we deal with because we discuss nothing in front of him..this is the worst she has done and we are thinking about not even fighting this time because we just went to court last year with her violating visitation order and kept him away 2 yrs..it seems after that initial 5 year gap we lose him every 2 years and have to file contempt..so tired of her!!
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Post by MsAdviser on Sept 20, 2011 6:38:36 GMT -5
I noticed that through out your post, you keep saying "We". My advice? Let your DH deal with the BM sitch. You deal with your 2 kids only. Disengage. If your DH decides to just let it go, that is his decision since it is his child. If he decides to fight that be his support since you are his partner.
Don't stress yourself out about someone else's child. You can be supportive of your DH without being overly involved with his other child by someone else.
Good luck to your DH.
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Post by tiredoffoolishness on Sept 28, 2011 8:34:39 GMT -5
Thanks so much..I have backed out several times but when my kids get accused of foolishness and everytime he confronts her about something, she throws me into it..I get involved. I do not even talk to her but find myself constantly trying to defend myself from the lies and bitterness she tries to instill in her son against us. I have for the most part backed up but how do I keep quiet with all the turmoil surrounding this drama?
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Post by lark on Oct 12, 2011 21:13:23 GMT -5
Wait, I want to understand everything fully. Visitation was suspended because BM accused BD of destroying child's clothes? And you have lost visitation rights altogether because of false allegations and moldy smelling clothing?  |
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Post by Jill B on Jan 2, 2012 7:08:51 GMT -5
Its ALL smoke and mirrors to disrupt the relationship the child has with you two. Sadly, after nearly 8 years of fighting, my husband and I are backing down. He pays $800.00 per month, no one holds the BM accountable for YEARS of missed visitation, shes jealous and hates me, and wants ultimate control over every aspect of our lives. Hubby and I have turned to each other, instead of letting us tear us apart. Our hope is when the child is a few years older, she will see the truth. Her mother does not work, has # children from # men, and is running an age old scam. We chose not to play anymore. After torturing. Hubby said he knows he will lose me, and any relationship, as his ex is hell bent on him being at her beck and call. We have almost ended it in the past, but this year, she really showed her true colors, and unfortuanately we are exiting out of the kids life until shes old enough to know and see the truth herself.
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Post by lark on Feb 6, 2012 23:48:03 GMT -5
I don't understand. How does 2 yrs. go by before you get a court date for contempt? And how does visitation get suspended for molded clothes?
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Post by jaylady999 on Feb 7, 2012 7:37:54 GMT -5
I don't understand. How does 2 yrs. go by before you get a court date for contempt?
Oh thats easy. These courts view BD not paying CS way more important than BM not allowing access to the kid. Sad, but true.
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Post by Guest on May 19, 2012 11:38:49 GMT -5
You're his wife and you are now TOTALLY responsible for what he's involved in, regardless of what people say, BECAUSE YOU'RE HIS WIFE. If y'all have that type of relationship, you are his helpmate and respect him more for trying to maintain a relationship with his son, who is now yours too. You keep on, honey! I respect you to the FULLEST. If you love him, you will totally support him IF he is as active as he should be. Good luck and I'll be praying....
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