Post by trynafindabalance on Oct 5, 2011 12:07:48 GMT -5
okay, so last we talked I told you all that I was getting married this December to my Fiance of now two yrs. The baby mama has been out of control since day one. You name it she has done it ( just read my other other post), and while I am younger then both the baby mama and my Fiance by 10yrs I have never met a more unfit mother in my life. Now as angery as she has made me at time and while her way of parenting might not be the way I would do it, I say that with a straight face because some things just shouldnt be done. Three weeks ago she calls me fiance and tells him that their son(14yrs) has decided he wants to be in the streets.( mind you she was in a realtionship with a drug dealer for about a year after me and my fiance met) The son has always had behavoir problems and this is not the first time this has happened he is running with the wrong boys and now wants to sell drugs. And everytime this issue comes up my fiance being the father he is goes to deal with his and handles the situation the way most fathers would with a teenage boy. Natrually though, when he lives with his mother most of the time and their is no reinforcement on her part, he goes back to doing what he wants to there and she allows it until it gets too out of hand.
WELL, when she called she said that his son had been robbed at gun point. Here's how the convo went;
Bm: your son was robbed they put a gun in his face
Fiance: what, when, for what
BM: they took his tenis and 1500 dollars
Fiance: what 1500 dollars is he okay where did he get the money
BM: he was huslting (selling drugs) and I went to find him and the boy he was sellng for showed me how much he had made but i aint want his drug money so i gave it back to jay( the son)
fiance: what where is he now why would u give that money to your 14yr old
BM: I aint want it, he here
Fiance: we on our way
Bm; both of yall
hangs up!
NOW FAST FORWARD A WEEK LATER!
The son stays out from the mothers house all night no one knows where he is. THe next morning he comes home but wont listen to his mother argues with her and she calls my fiance who coarse goes to get the son. NOW WHAT HE SAYS NEXT MADE MY JAW DROP!!!! my fiance says what the problem why are you being so nasty.
son: cuz my mothers a freak
Fiance and Me: what
Son: I cant stand her I cant live there no more
Fiance and ME: but you ran away
Son: I know I shouldnt be selling drugs especally not at 14 but she (the mother) dont have to be f**king the guy im selling for behind my back like im dumb or something, but yet she dont want me in the streets.
Fiance and I: speachless
What do you say to that here we are trying to get him to do the right thing as he sees us do all the time but he goes home to that and is told to respect BM how is he suppose to. I feel for the boy but my fiance keeps telling him that who his mom deals with isnt his business i disagree. He to me, is owed some type of explination. She is soo irresponsible as a mother and as a person but yet wants the respect of her son and has a problem with the way we are trying to raise him but calls us when she cant handle him and is doing stupid stuff like sleeping with the boys drug dealin partner for money come on what do we or I do?
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HOw will the son ever learn right from wrong when this is what she shows and I def. dont want those attitudes aroud my children and I just found out im PREGNANT with our first now!!!
WELL, when she called she said that his son had been robbed at gun point. Here's how the convo went;
Bm: your son was robbed they put a gun in his face
Fiance: what, when, for what
BM: they took his tenis and 1500 dollars
Fiance: what 1500 dollars is he okay where did he get the money
BM: he was huslting (selling drugs) and I went to find him and the boy he was sellng for showed me how much he had made but i aint want his drug money so i gave it back to jay( the son)
fiance: what where is he now why would u give that money to your 14yr old
BM: I aint want it, he here
Fiance: we on our way
Bm; both of yall
hangs up!
NOW FAST FORWARD A WEEK LATER!
The son stays out from the mothers house all night no one knows where he is. THe next morning he comes home but wont listen to his mother argues with her and she calls my fiance who coarse goes to get the son. NOW WHAT HE SAYS NEXT MADE MY JAW DROP!!!! my fiance says what the problem why are you being so nasty.
son: cuz my mothers a freak
Fiance and Me: what
Son: I cant stand her I cant live there no more
Fiance and ME: but you ran away
Son: I know I shouldnt be selling drugs especally not at 14 but she (the mother) dont have to be f**king the guy im selling for behind my back like im dumb or something, but yet she dont want me in the streets.
Fiance and I: speachless
What do you say to that here we are trying to get him to do the right thing as he sees us do all the time but he goes home to that and is told to respect BM how is he suppose to. I feel for the boy but my fiance keeps telling him that who his mom deals with isnt his business i disagree. He to me, is owed some type of explination. She is soo irresponsible as a mother and as a person but yet wants the respect of her son and has a problem with the way we are trying to raise him but calls us when she cant handle him and is doing stupid stuff like sleeping with the boys drug dealin partner for money come on what do we or I do?
?HOw will the son ever learn right from wrong when this is what she shows and I def. dont want those attitudes aroud my children and I just found out im PREGNANT with our first now!!!