Post by mille2ad on Oct 27, 2011 22:48:30 GMT -5
So I've been with my fiance for 6 years now. He has a 6 yr old son with his baby mama. He did not fully come into the picture until his son was 3 years, but fought with his baby mama to see his son and be apart of his life when he was about 10mo old. He was apart of his birth and everything. The reason why he split was because of his son's mother; she's too much drama to handle. I am the reason why my fiance is apart of his son's life. I pushed him into having a relationship & he regrets not being able to see him grow up the way he's seen our own son grow.
Anyways to make a long story short, it comes as no surprise that his bm hates my guts. We all sort of run along with the same group of friends and she hangs out with my fiance's sister-in-law (whom is bad news & has caused problems by being friends with her).
Anyways, over the past year she has had a serious hard on about how much I'm allowed to be involved. We go through the court for everything so we have a list of rules and regulations of the 50/50 custody (shared legal and custodial). I recently made a timeline with my step-son for a school project that was due on our weekt to have him and clearly made it a point to include events that have occurred from both sides of his family. We used multiple pictures of each side of his family in an attempt to not her feelings (I wanted to make the timeline appear as equal as possible). I did not contact her for information because I was able to find it all on facebook (thank's to her willingness to share anything and everything) and because I did not want to have to ask for her help. Well she the saw the timeline and flipped out at my fiance (Keep in mind that I previously spoke to her approximately 3 weeks prior about the same issue) because I am not my step-son's parents, therefore I am not allowed to be involved with anything that has to do with him. (The court has said otherwise)
I love my step-son to death and actually share a special relationship with him. He has a clear understanding about my role in his life as his step-mom. He respects me more than his mother, and when he started calling me mom when he was younger, I had to have an awkward conversation with him about how I was not really his mom & that it wasn't the best idea to call me 'mom.'
I am fed up with her baby mama drama. I have considered breaking up my family because I can't deal with her nuts anymore. I really don't know what to do because I can only talk to my fiance so much about the situation before he gets sicks of listening & doesn't want to deal with it anymore. I know that in my heart I am not doing anything wrong and have been considerably respectful of her, but it is not my problem that she feels that I shouldn't be involved in her son's life because she doesnt' allow her husband to be involved in the lives of the two children that he did not father. Talking to her is pointless because she's too ignorant and arrogant to understand what I am saying.
WHAT DO I DO???
Anyways to make a long story short, it comes as no surprise that his bm hates my guts. We all sort of run along with the same group of friends and she hangs out with my fiance's sister-in-law (whom is bad news & has caused problems by being friends with her).
Anyways, over the past year she has had a serious hard on about how much I'm allowed to be involved. We go through the court for everything so we have a list of rules and regulations of the 50/50 custody (shared legal and custodial). I recently made a timeline with my step-son for a school project that was due on our weekt to have him and clearly made it a point to include events that have occurred from both sides of his family. We used multiple pictures of each side of his family in an attempt to not her feelings (I wanted to make the timeline appear as equal as possible). I did not contact her for information because I was able to find it all on facebook (thank's to her willingness to share anything and everything) and because I did not want to have to ask for her help. Well she the saw the timeline and flipped out at my fiance (Keep in mind that I previously spoke to her approximately 3 weeks prior about the same issue) because I am not my step-son's parents, therefore I am not allowed to be involved with anything that has to do with him. (The court has said otherwise)
I love my step-son to death and actually share a special relationship with him. He has a clear understanding about my role in his life as his step-mom. He respects me more than his mother, and when he started calling me mom when he was younger, I had to have an awkward conversation with him about how I was not really his mom & that it wasn't the best idea to call me 'mom.'
I am fed up with her baby mama drama. I have considered breaking up my family because I can't deal with her nuts anymore. I really don't know what to do because I can only talk to my fiance so much about the situation before he gets sicks of listening & doesn't want to deal with it anymore. I know that in my heart I am not doing anything wrong and have been considerably respectful of her, but it is not my problem that she feels that I shouldn't be involved in her son's life because she doesnt' allow her husband to be involved in the lives of the two children that he did not father. Talking to her is pointless because she's too ignorant and arrogant to understand what I am saying.
WHAT DO I DO???