|
|
Post by yogabliss1 on Feb 29, 2012 16:51:54 GMT -5
Hi, I have been married to a man for 4 years...the entire time we have been dealing with BMD. To make it short, this woman as trashed talked me and my kids, denied his visitation at the last minute when we had family plans, destroyed his credit, etc. etc. Court date, after Court date. I have told my husband that I could no longer deal with this craziness, and that either he limit his contact with this psycho and accept what she does (i.e. if she denies, she denies, if she calls, don't pick up) and I don't want to talk about it anymore!!!She is never going to stop trying to hurt us (btw, I met my husband after his divorce) she can not stand he got happier before her. She treats me like the other woman! Makes me ill, but won't give her satisfacation of ruining our marriage. Ideas?
|
|
|
|
Post by ihateher on Mar 2, 2012 16:02:33 GMT -5
Hi it's extremely difficult when your dealing with a miserable baby mama. I've been through hell the last 5 years and it is still continuing. If I could do it all over again I wouldn't that's how bad it has been. Me and my common law husband now have two kids together and he has two kids ages almost 11 and a 14 year old with the miserable bm. I can say it has gotten better today from five years ago however it's a never ending battle over child support. My situation is a little different than most however with mine it adds up to the same issue as most. Money!! She uses the kids as her meal ticket for extra income. So back to your issue you just to to fight her at her win childish games. I'm up to $7500 in court costs and it's still adding up. We aren't rich we have two children full time and we have 50/50 custody of his two children that he has of her. He definitely needs to limit his contact with her. At first my Bm would call and text my husband for the most absurd things, she would purposely call during family events to spoil the mood, if he didn't answer she would put the kids in the middle by
Calling their cell phones telling them to put their dad on the phone, he would tell them tell her I'm busy and she wouldn't accept that answer so the kids would be caught in the middle standing with the phone in their hands. I then made it a point that when we got off the car to go eat or to whatever event or place that we were having our family time they had to leave their cell phones in the car and if she called my husbands phone he wouldn't answer. It would be understandable if their were truly something going on with the children that she needed to discuss but it never was. So when she calls my husband never answers his phone. If she wants to speak to the children she can call directly to their cell phones but she knows not to ask to talk to my husband because he won't get on. They pretty much only communicate via text messaging but my husband still only responds if it's something about the children and he keeps it short so there's no reason to go back and forth with text wars. Your husband has to be willing to put you before her. If she is keeping his child from him then let the courts handle it and demand the attorney to file contempt of court charges on her from keeping the child from him on his days of possession. Eventually enough fines from that she will stop and if not any judge will give her jail time for that. If you love your husband you need to not allow her to cause you and your husband to fight over her bull crap. Good luck
|
|
|
|
Post by ihateher on Mar 2, 2012 16:07:08 GMT -5
Oh and make sure you get a police report for every time she pulls a no show when you go pick up the child. The bm is trying to get attention tell your husband to not give her any. The worst case is she keeps his child from him but she's doing that already.
|
|
