Do i go to her home?

[Diane75]

So, my husband's ex, whom he has 2 children with has had nothing but hatred for me for 7 out of the 8 yrs I have dealt with her. Recently she has had a "change of heart" trying to make amends, which I am happy to hear in regards to our children being able to become bonded as well as my husband getting to know his children better. HOWEVER....she is still a little up and down and most recently she asked me and my children to come to her home so that "the kids can play and we can visit". I was hesitant about this and she did not invite my husband although, he was working but the weird part was how she came acrossed. She KEPT persisting that i come, even after i suggested we maybe go to the park for a bit instead. She was saying things like "come on, just come over, theres no problems, dont worry, just come over" then I kind of chuckled bc it sounded a little "extra" and she was like "why are you laughing, come on over, Im serious, theres no issues or nothing to worry about, come over here". Weird right? What do you suggest I say to her when she comes at me like this? I dont want to cause problems bc we dont have legal visitation since we cannot afford a lawyer yet so our visits depend on her moods.

[jaylady999]

It is not a requirement of you to go to home. After all these years, me? I personally wouldn't bother. But that's just me. I am not too good at working with other people's whims, I don't care who it is...BM or not.

[Guestttt]

I agree with jaylady. If you don't feel comfortable with that then don't do it.

[Kate]

DO NOT GO!!!! When you have that many problems w/the BM. keep the relationship with her, strictly business. The children are the pleasure. You can be cordial but maintain your distance. It's just how imperfect situations work. I don't know why so many BM's have a problem going on. Good luck!