Is he flirting with the ex or am I paranoid?

[Diane75]

I understand this sounds silly, childish, petty (all of the above) BUT....I just want to know from other points of view if I am being nit-picky, maybe I'm over-reacting or if I have ground to stand on when feeling like my husband may be flirting with the women whom he also has 2 children with. I ask this bc in the past I have had issues with that situation (long before him and I got married, he cheated on me with this person) so I want to be sure and I want to watch for clues that he may be throwing hints to her or flirting with her in any way. I do not want to deal with the BS but then again I don’t want to be this CRAZY, jealous wife either. So......here goes: on Mother's Day, he sends the girl a text message saying "Happy Mother's Day crazy ***" and she responds "thank you not a very nice person" I know it sounds silly to think this may be flirting but if you knew the history you may agree. We are always having issued with this girl and so this is why he called her crazy *** but I think it's getting a little too personal and that he needs to keep things 100% almost business like with her bc of the way she is. He DID tell me about his text to her and laughed as he was telling me but I don’t think it was funny, it really pissed me off!!!

[Guestttt]

You are not overreacting. It seems to me like they are having a kind of "inside joke". He needs to have more respect for you especially since he cheated on you with this person. All communication should stop unless it has to do with the children, thats it. He can not be friends with someone that he has cheated on you with. Very disrespectful in my opinion. But dont let it bother you to much, just let him know that you do not like that kind of convo between him and her and he should know why. Just let him know you don't feel comfortable with that, just as he wouldnt want you texting one of your exes, and especially one that you cheated on him with. He needs to give you the same respect he would want for himself.