Post by alena92c on Feb 19, 2013 10:28:30 GMT -5
This girl's posting almost EXACTLY sums up my BMD to where I wouldn't be surprised if my boyfriend's BM posted it herself and just changed a few facts like her daughter's gender or her age of getting pregnant, but I need some help with this. Any opinions as to how to deal with a BM of this nature?
"The judge will rule in my favor bc im the mom right?
Ok heres my situation. I got pregnant and had my son early (age 18), but I did graduate high school. The father of my child is a few years older, 3 to be exact. Anyway we were together for about 3 years and we tried working things out. They didn't I just felt like I still wanted to be a teenager still and that I still had a lot of living to do. He got mad at my lifestyle and took me to court for custody. I showed up but didnt fight and he was awarded sole custody of our kid. I moved on with a new boyfriend who was a little less than good for me (he was a felon, a drug user, and he hit me) but we stayed together for about a year and some change (until oct 2012) I was living with him at the time and I had two jobs through out the relationship but neither of them worked out. I left him and moved back home with my parents and aunt where I met a new guy who is incredible I really love him. He doesn't work though i do have a job at a fast food restaurant . Now my son's father started dating a woman who he claimed was family (no they never cheated they just claimed to be cousins) I know the woman personally and knew her before I even got pregnant but that's beside the point. I'll admit that she's known my kid just about all his life but still. She began calling me a bad mother after being with him for two months and took it upon herself to assume a "motherly" role.His family doesn't even like her, but he still with her. I see my son when i can (every 2 weeks or so) and I do my best. They have been together for more than a year now, have a child together, and things seem to be getting serious, they're beginning to talk about moving in together. Of course I have a HUGE problem with this bc I have told her that she will never be a mother figure to my child and i don't want my chlild her. I've told her to stay away from my son but since i don't have custody his father feels that he can over rule my say so and still take him around her. Anyway bringing this to a close. I want to get custody of my son back. Is it true that since I'm his mother that I will be awarded custody? Given that after I had a falling out with his father's girlfriend she began documenting things I say on my social network sites like facebook and twitter. and she may have some proof that I party often, have a bad temper, have threatened her, have talked about suicide publicaly? Answers will be real appreciated.....let me be clear. I've dated two new men since my son's father and I broke up. My first new boyfriend was a felon and a abuser. Not my son's father, he is nothing short of one of the sweetest men I know. He works full time, and i have nothing on him. We were actually friends before he and the new girl started dating. Then he changed towards me. Now when I say document i mean she actually screenshot the things i've said so even thouhg i deleted them they still have proof i said it....She also says Im a bad mother bc i don't pay for anything for my son. ie. clothes, shoes, food, daycare. But his father never asks me for it. She says he shouldn't have to ask, that i should just feel obligated to do that stuff. I also have attacked their relationship....saying things like he and I were cheating behind her back so her hate for me may also steam from that. She's actually tried apologizing............Oh and I guess telling you that our custody is set up where he has sole custody (legal and phsyical) and I have a free schedule visitation where I pretty much acan come when i please but now he has put me on a scheudle where i get weekend visits but got mad when i kept bringing him home after one night instead of sunday now he only allows me day trips with my son........"
"The judge will rule in my favor bc im the mom right?
Ok heres my situation. I got pregnant and had my son early (age 18), but I did graduate high school. The father of my child is a few years older, 3 to be exact. Anyway we were together for about 3 years and we tried working things out. They didn't I just felt like I still wanted to be a teenager still and that I still had a lot of living to do. He got mad at my lifestyle and took me to court for custody. I showed up but didnt fight and he was awarded sole custody of our kid. I moved on with a new boyfriend who was a little less than good for me (he was a felon, a drug user, and he hit me) but we stayed together for about a year and some change (until oct 2012) I was living with him at the time and I had two jobs through out the relationship but neither of them worked out. I left him and moved back home with my parents and aunt where I met a new guy who is incredible I really love him. He doesn't work though i do have a job at a fast food restaurant . Now my son's father started dating a woman who he claimed was family (no they never cheated they just claimed to be cousins) I know the woman personally and knew her before I even got pregnant but that's beside the point. I'll admit that she's known my kid just about all his life but still. She began calling me a bad mother after being with him for two months and took it upon herself to assume a "motherly" role.His family doesn't even like her, but he still with her. I see my son when i can (every 2 weeks or so) and I do my best. They have been together for more than a year now, have a child together, and things seem to be getting serious, they're beginning to talk about moving in together. Of course I have a HUGE problem with this bc I have told her that she will never be a mother figure to my child and i don't want my chlild her. I've told her to stay away from my son but since i don't have custody his father feels that he can over rule my say so and still take him around her. Anyway bringing this to a close. I want to get custody of my son back. Is it true that since I'm his mother that I will be awarded custody? Given that after I had a falling out with his father's girlfriend she began documenting things I say on my social network sites like facebook and twitter. and she may have some proof that I party often, have a bad temper, have threatened her, have talked about suicide publicaly? Answers will be real appreciated.....let me be clear. I've dated two new men since my son's father and I broke up. My first new boyfriend was a felon and a abuser. Not my son's father, he is nothing short of one of the sweetest men I know. He works full time, and i have nothing on him. We were actually friends before he and the new girl started dating. Then he changed towards me. Now when I say document i mean she actually screenshot the things i've said so even thouhg i deleted them they still have proof i said it....She also says Im a bad mother bc i don't pay for anything for my son. ie. clothes, shoes, food, daycare. But his father never asks me for it. She says he shouldn't have to ask, that i should just feel obligated to do that stuff. I also have attacked their relationship....saying things like he and I were cheating behind her back so her hate for me may also steam from that. She's actually tried apologizing............Oh and I guess telling you that our custody is set up where he has sole custody (legal and phsyical) and I have a free schedule visitation where I pretty much acan come when i please but now he has put me on a scheudle where i get weekend visits but got mad when i kept bringing him home after one night instead of sunday now he only allows me day trips with my son........"