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Post by nikos on May 14, 2013 13:03:59 GMT -5
My daughters mother broke up with me almost 2 yrs ago. I didn't cheat or anything she just felt we grew apart being as though we were together for 7 yrs meeting when she was 17 and I was 19. Having a child shortly after. We broke up on good terms I felt and we communicated well. It was hard to get over at first but I moved on. Then after a while she would always have a attitude. She got a new boyfriend and was always pretty nonchalant about it. Last year her attitude got too unbearable to deal with she constantly stressed me out, and I was tired of it. So I cut her off completely using my family as a middle mediator to see my daughter give money and communicate with her ect. Since then I've been loving my life learning myself and experiencing new things. She's now pregnant by another person and seems miserable. I just talked to her recently for the first time in a year and offcourse she still trys to argue with me. Why does she hate me I've done nothing wrong to this girl?
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Post by truthbtold on May 15, 2013 12:12:21 GMT -5
My daughters mother broke up with me almost 2 yrs ago. I didn't cheat or anything she just felt we grew apart being as though we were together for 7 yrs meeting when she was 17 and I was 19. Having a child shortly after. We broke up on good terms I felt and we communicated well. It was hard to get over at first but I moved on. Then after a while she would always have a attitude. She got a new boyfriend and was always pretty nonchalant about it. Last year her attitude got too unbearable to deal with she constantly stressed me out, and I was tired of it. So I cut her off completely using my family as a middle mediator to see my daughter give money and communicate with her ect. Since then I've been loving my life learning myself and experiencing new things. She's now pregnant by another person and seems miserable. I just talked to her recently for the first time in a year and offcourse she still trys to argue with me. Why does she hate me I've done nothing wrong to this girl? Hi, Of course any suggestions or advice will be pure speculation based off of what you provided and hoping that posters are being as forthright and accurate as possible. In any event, it seems to me that she has some unresolved issues (she feels - just like how you felt that the relationship ended on good terms) perhaps with you and even perhaps dealing with some internal issues as it relates to herself, as well. Sometimes people select that target for one reason or another and all of their anger is directed to that person. At times, often misplaced but other times, justified. I think you did a good thing for yourself and removed the toxicity from your life. It's unfortunate though that family has to serve as a mediator when the two of you should be able to communicate and co-parent amicably considering this child is the both of y'all responsibility. But not always the case, so be that as it may. I guess her current misery is being a young mother with two out-of-wedlock kids from two different men  . You both having gotten together quite young and involved in a serious relationship resulting in a child can stifle personal growth. Not surprised she said you two grew apart, 17 and 19 together for 7 years. Maybe she wants to be with you and cannot seem to communicate that to you and gets upset? I don't really know. People are drama and difficult to figure out at times particularly, when they are not articulating themselves well. I wouldn't internalize her issues. If you want, you can ask her what's her problem and see if she wants to talk about it; an outlet of sorts. If she is just hellbent on continuing to argue with you, don't indulge it. She has to find her own way. |
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. You both having gotten together quite young and involved in a serious relationship resulting in a child can stifle personal growth. Not surprised she said you two grew apart, 17 and 19 together for 7 years. Maybe she wants to be with you and cannot seem to communicate that to you and gets upset? I don't really know. People are drama and difficult to figure out at times particularly, when they are not articulating themselves well. I wouldn't internalize her issues. If you want, you can ask her what's her problem and see if she wants to talk about it; an outlet of sorts. If she is just hellbent on continuing to argue with you, don't indulge it. She has to find her own way.