what is this?? im new to this what to do??

[womanscorned]

Hey y'all...im new to all this bm drama n such....So my problem is not new but really consuming me. Been seeing this man for 1 year he has a 3yr old from a prev relationship. Things was great not much bm drama not until she heard he was serious about me. Fast forward now things r so different, i left him when i found out he'd had a one night stand with his bm n i left.
He said she used the kid to make him feel guilty for not being with her blah blah...now he is begging me back swearing he wants to be with me n not her but my intuition tells me to run n not look back. I still love this guy but is it worth me going back? And he expects me to just believe him yet he chats with her alot on the phone n when i ask he says they don't talk about anything inappropriate just their child..hmmm what is it u can talk about a child everyday?? He says he doesnt wanna be with her but he doesnt do anything to create boundaries and whenever we fight he suddenly becomes bff with her and then when we back together he puts her on hold. Im sick of this and im only 22 no kids...am i wasting my time trying to deal with a man with a child?

[womanscorned]

And be brutal honest if you must i need to hear it like it is...maybe i got some foggy glasses on clouded by my love for him and cant see the real picture

[Leavenow]

Same advice I gave the other chick. Leave now. He is a liar and a cheat. They don't change, they cheat more and get better at lying. Cut your losses. Why do women think they can love a man into being faithful? You can't. An unfaithful man will continue to be unfaithful. They only try to hide it better.

[womanscorned]

thanks for ur answer. very true, though hard. it also opened my eyes to not blame the baby mama for her attempts to win him back. when a man betrays a woman it is painful enough, and for a baby mama i can imagine the pain is 10times more coming from a man whose child u bear i would not want to be in a situation where i have a child and the father of my child leaves me for another woman. it happens and most bms cannot let go and they try and try to win him over again n again...sad but true..though i now firmly believe there is a way out. lesson learnt.