Post by ggirl on Jul 8, 2013 8:34:04 GMT -5
I am new to hear and need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. He just got out a long battle for visitation rights of his daughter. Now the problem is that he is trying to do everything he can to avoid going back to court which involves him having to sit over the baby mom house 30mins to an hour every week because she said he needs to. So he told her that sitting over there is disrespectful to me and that she need to be ready on time and she said I need to realize she is the BM and I am thinking yes you are the BM as in when it comes to the well being of your daughter not the daddy. So to give some background she demanded that she didnt want me around the baby and he agreed as well as they agreed on a time to get the baby. All of a sudden within a week the BM had changed her mind and changed the time. I can say that I am now able to see the baby after 2 months of visitation because the BM started acting funny when she found out we were engaged. Now the thing is he wont stand up for himself when it comes to sitting over there for an hour. He told her he wanted to change the time back to the court order paper and she said she would think about. I am ready to leave the situation because it is getting the best of me emotionally. My thing is I feel if he doesnt stop certain things now it will be a bigger problem and his excuse is what can I do. Ummmm u didnt go to court to get visitation rights to let her dictate your life. Now i am wondering am I overreacting because I see people going through worse and what can I do to avoid the feelings I feel to try to be happy with my boyfriend.