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Post by Timeca on Mar 15, 2008 17:25:59 GMT -5
I'm new @ this but bf has 2 bm & only one has cause a big fuss she thinks if she's not with him then he can be a father, but mind you we have a child too. He can't see childeren unless he comes to her house, she has went as far as tell people(his family) that i voodoo into being with me,and gave her cancer she is just crazy we've been together for 4 years and it been 4 years of stright hell but he won't doing thing cuse then he won't be able to see them either
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Post by jusdntundstn on Mar 15, 2008 20:23:54 GMT -5
I know the feeling, I've been dealing with the same situation for 3 years. Does she play the infamous "I had your kids first role"?......I recently got a bigger place, so Im expecting him to bring his kids over now to spend time. No more excuses..I just met all his kids within the past five months of the three years we been together. Whew! what a ride it has been...She may have his first, but I have his last..ha ha ha and my son (his only boy). Toooshay..
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Post by lovejones08 on Mar 27, 2008 23:03:11 GMT -5
I believe that there is a major difference between the mother of a child and a BM. Unfortunately, BMs are very selfish and miserable individuals who will try to ruin lives because they are unhappy and at any cost. This means they will even sacrifice the well being of their children to get back another person or cause havoc. It is a very sad situation and women like this make it bad for a single mother of a child whose main focus is making sure they make the best life for their child. Our stories sound the same; see how predictable and simply minded BMs can be. I have been in a relationship now for four years and I'm getting married soon. Nothing but pure from BM since the first day she found out that another woman could do what she chose not to do and that was make a good man happy. She thought she could control him and keep him under her belt because she knew he loved his child. I brought out the best in him and he did the same for me which pissed her off, but that is not my problem. He and I have been through ups and downs with this situation because all he wants to do is be a good father and she tries to make that difficult for him, which discourages him, and pisses me off, but when that child becomes an adult then that mother will have to deal with the pain that she doesn't even realize she's causing or just doesn't care. It's like these nonsensical women are all the same and I encourage all men in this crazy situation to just be the best daddy they can under the circumstances and if they can only see their child or children for five minutes, make it the best five minutes of their lives by giving hugs, kisses, unconditional love. I guaranteed this is what that child will remember always no matter what type of mess that ridiculous creature that wants to call herself a mother and think that she is owed an honorary award for giving birth like she is the only one capable says about their daddy. The phrase that gives me hope is God doesn't like ugly and what goes around will come around. Love endures all things and if you have true love these petty and childish acts will only bring you all closer together. As for women in this situation if he is a good enough man don’t let his past dictate your future together because he went through a life lesson to become a better man you and your children. He will love and respect you even more when you stood by his side through the toughest situation. You have to choose what you are willing to deal with because you do have the choice to removed yourself or stay in the situation. Not a easy decision to make!
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Post by downazzchick on Mar 28, 2008 23:48:28 GMT -5
Timeca.... U know it is sad how some bm use their kids to control their ex and in some situations it really works. If he hasn't stood up to her yet, he may not in the future. Most of the time people in the family will see the drama and not allow it to continue or not entertain those bogus accusations.
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Post by wowposter on Sept 11, 2008 3:17:40 GMT -5
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