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Post by anonymous on Dec 10, 2013 12:27:19 GMT -5
My boyfriend is ready to go to court with his baby mama. He is fed up with the drama and stress and her threats and her holding his daughter over his head. My question if anybody knows or has been thru this.. What are his rights as a father? Can he get joint custody or visitation rights? we live in PA.
He is a recovering addict and has six months clean and is doing great. He does live in a recovery house right now, but within a few months will be getting his own place. I know BM will fight like hell in court and get as much child support as she can, which he doesn't care about, as long as he can see his daughter without having to follow all of her commands to do so.
Is this going to be a long process and stressful? What is he going to be dealing with? He has saved all her text messages and is documenting them. But when he gives her money, he gives cash, which is stupid because that will screw him.
I am just curious. I have never been through this before and I want to be here for him as much as I can, just as a support system and giving him some advice without getting involved in the battle between the two of them. Just want him to come out of this happier than when he goes in. Just looking for some advice
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Post by truthbtold on Dec 10, 2013 19:35:44 GMT -5
My boyfriend is ready to go to court with his baby mama. He is fed up with the drama and stress and her threats and her holding his daughter over his head. My question if anybody knows or has been thru this.. What are his rights as a father? Can he get joint custody or visitation rights? we live in PA. He is a recovering addict and has six months clean and is doing great. He does live in a recovery house right now, but within a few months will be getting his own place. I know BM will fight like hell in court and get as much child support as she can, which he doesn't care about, as long as he can see his daughter without having to follow all of her commands to do so. Is this going to be a long process and stressful? What is he going to be dealing with? He has saved all her text messages and is documenting them. But when he gives her money, he gives cash, which is stupid because that will screw him. I am just curious. I have never been through this before and I want to be here for him as much as I can, just as a support system and giving him some advice without getting involved in the battle between the two of them. Just want him to come out of this happier than when he goes in. Just looking for some advice I think the best thing to do is for your boyfriend to contact the Courts and see if they have a free legal advice office, as many Courts in various jurisdictions do. PA may be a little wacko doo, but I believe seeking legal advice from those that can offer the most concrete help is the best solution. If not, he will find out soon enough what the process is like and if it becomes a recurring thing (going to Court), he will be better educated next time around. I do believe though that his current situation may work against him at the moment with respect to, at a minimum, joint custody, but that's just what I have concluded based on the little bit that I know about PA, as of most recent. "I have never been through this before and I want to be here for him as much as I can, just as a support system and giving him some advice without getting involved in the battle between the two of them"I think @ the underlined can become a very slippery slope with respect to the advice you are willing to dispense and as a result, it can become you getting more involved. See it all time regardless how much the new woman protests that she doesn't want to be involved. He is a grown man and he will or should be able to work out his own affairs. |
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Post by mn on Dec 18, 2013 12:48:15 GMT -5
I also live in PA and I'm curious to know more about the legal system. I've done a LOT if research and I do know SOME things, for example, if his daughter is already in a stable home with the mother, the court system is going to avoid changing that. And if she is making less than him, or needs help financially, they will make him pay her support.
Saving everything is really smart and is what I've been doing since I started dating my boyfriend and realized the BMD is very real. My boyfriend tried to give his BM cash for something 2-3 years go and I really yelled at him for it. He hasn't done it since. And remember, social media posts do stand up in family court. If you or your boyfriend have posted anything slandering her, remove it immediately. If BM has posted anything, save it and print it out.
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