Post by lovely24 on Jan 10, 2014 12:43:51 GMT -5
Hello,
I have a dilemma. On November 11, 2013 BM appeared at my home unannounced and uninvited. When I answer the door it was my SO 6 yr old child standing there. The child asked if her father was home, I informed the child that her father was at work and to come in while I slipped on some clothes, she ran away from the door to get in a car that resembled BM. Usually I stay out their drama but she crossed the line that time, so I called her, yes I did called BM to ascertain why she didn't call my SO instead of showing up unannounced she stated that she did call him but he was not answering and her intentions was to pull off if he answered the door. A argument ensued and I told her to stay the F**K away from home, her response was I do what the F**k I want to do, if u don't want me showing up unannounced, put him out n you shouldn't b involved with a man with children. Now two weeks prior to this incident she dropped the child off for the weekend and SO called her the Sunday to make arrangements to meet him halfway...she didn't answer...he text her, no response...he didn't hear from BM until Wednesday night, the child missed 3 days of school. While I'm at work, she's blowing my phone up, I finally answered, asking me is everything ok because she was trying to call SO and wasn't getting a answer. I told her please don't call me, I don't want anything to do with u or the drama. She went on to he didn't call n then said it wasn't gonna kill her to miss a couple days of school, I'm certain that he tried to contact her because he showed me the history of calls and texts...after this incident he decided to not get the child the following weekends and expressed to me he was tired of her taking advantage of him, do what she whatever she wants to include dropping and picking the child up when she felt like...this lead up to her showing up unannounced Nov 11. Anyhow, getting back to Nov 11, to make a long story short, she threatened to destroy my car and bodily harm. I'm in no way afraid of her but I did go about the legal way because she is so not worth it. She has a history of domestic violence, battery on a elder person the list goes on. She has kept the child from him since that day and I know it's hurting him. He also placed restraining order and visitation was suppose be arrange third party until we go to court. We went to court on two weeks after placing the restraining orders but she was a no show and the court date was extended. We was also I informed by the judge asst that he would not arrangement visitation until SO provides a paternity test stating that it's his child because the child was conceived out of wedlock...plzzzz help...I welcome all advice good or bad.By the way I know that one of the BM rules is to not communicate with BM...In the beginning of our relationship I did and I regretted it...I stopped convo for months until she showed up to my home.
I have a dilemma. On November 11, 2013 BM appeared at my home unannounced and uninvited. When I answer the door it was my SO 6 yr old child standing there. The child asked if her father was home, I informed the child that her father was at work and to come in while I slipped on some clothes, she ran away from the door to get in a car that resembled BM. Usually I stay out their drama but she crossed the line that time, so I called her, yes I did called BM to ascertain why she didn't call my SO instead of showing up unannounced she stated that she did call him but he was not answering and her intentions was to pull off if he answered the door. A argument ensued and I told her to stay the F**K away from home, her response was I do what the F**k I want to do, if u don't want me showing up unannounced, put him out n you shouldn't b involved with a man with children. Now two weeks prior to this incident she dropped the child off for the weekend and SO called her the Sunday to make arrangements to meet him halfway...she didn't answer...he text her, no response...he didn't hear from BM until Wednesday night, the child missed 3 days of school. While I'm at work, she's blowing my phone up, I finally answered, asking me is everything ok because she was trying to call SO and wasn't getting a answer. I told her please don't call me, I don't want anything to do with u or the drama. She went on to he didn't call n then said it wasn't gonna kill her to miss a couple days of school, I'm certain that he tried to contact her because he showed me the history of calls and texts...after this incident he decided to not get the child the following weekends and expressed to me he was tired of her taking advantage of him, do what she whatever she wants to include dropping and picking the child up when she felt like...this lead up to her showing up unannounced Nov 11. Anyhow, getting back to Nov 11, to make a long story short, she threatened to destroy my car and bodily harm. I'm in no way afraid of her but I did go about the legal way because she is so not worth it. She has a history of domestic violence, battery on a elder person the list goes on. She has kept the child from him since that day and I know it's hurting him. He also placed restraining order and visitation was suppose be arrange third party until we go to court. We went to court on two weeks after placing the restraining orders but she was a no show and the court date was extended. We was also I informed by the judge asst that he would not arrangement visitation until SO provides a paternity test stating that it's his child because the child was conceived out of wedlock...plzzzz help...I welcome all advice good or bad.By the way I know that one of the BM rules is to not communicate with BM...In the beginning of our relationship I did and I regretted it...I stopped convo for months until she showed up to my home.