Can we EVER trust a sneaky BM (if she seems to have changed)

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So, I'm just wondering if anyone has had the experience I am having and might have input based on what you went through. My husband's BM is a girl whom he never really had a "real" relationship with; at least he never claimed her to anyone. He slept with her and matter of fact cheated on me with her even (although it happened before we were married, it still left a significant impact on our lives i.e she turned from a side chic to his BM). Needless to say, with a situation like that, there were YEARS of drama and her acting a COMPLETE fool; I also played my part in the mess too bc boy was I PISSED, hurt, disgusted, and just overall down and out about it for a number of years. SOMEHOW my husband and I have come a LONG way, even with the BM! Just recently she has out of nowhere went from completely HATING and not letting my husband ever take their child. She would of course let him come to her home and see her though-go figure. Well I prayed A LOT for the whole situation and what do you know, things seemed to have changed over night. She now allows us to get the child every other weeekend and she is friendly to us, INCLUDING ME-she will try to call me sometimes and talk on the phone with me and just be really easy going all around. I am the type of person that will get along with anyone who is nice to me and I fall for niceness pretty easily. I just want to know if you all think its safe to think this girl has changed her ways (maybe grown up) or if I should still keep my guard up and I guess at this point I am unsure of how to deal with her bc I have a hard time being assertive or mean to anyone who isnt directly being rude to me.

The other night when her daughter was at our house, my husband was taking a shower and she called to tell her goodnite, I DID NOT get on the phone with BM and when the little girl was done talking to her mom, I just hung up. Well the BM called back and I let her daughter answer it (bc I didnt feel the need to speak to her for any reason) well instead the daughter brings me the phone and says my mom wants to talk to you. So I get on the phone and she proceeds to conversate with me as if we are friends (as she has often been doing lately) but then I feel like she took the convo south, telling me about stories of her and my husband's past and just telling me about things that really are not even true and are not even necessary for me to know or hear. I just don’t get her motive here. Please help me to OPEN my eyes

[BlackSummers'Night]

I am very very surprised that this board is still up. This site has become the butt of many jokes. OMG!! Please go read a book and do something else besides posting this same nonsense (yeah keep reminding us too, what a prize your husband is). You are one pathetic bird. You obviously live for this stuff and love the drama. You try and justify your crap by stating what type of person you are. What the heck does that have to do with anything? Go connect some brain cells and develop a strong sense of self and an identity.

[Bbrrrr5]

Lol ur on a baby mama drama forum, hmmmm I think I'm in the right place for my post, you clearly have no life yourself if you felt the need to come by this pathetic site and take a min out if your time to say something you clearly felt was necessary. People like you make me laugh! Thanks for your input tho

[BlackSummers'Night]

Mar 11, 2014 21:26:17 GMT -5 Bbrrrr5 said:

Lol ur on a baby mama drama forum, hmmmm I think I'm in the right place for my post, you clearly have no life yourself if you felt the need to come by this pathetic site and take a min out if your time to say something you clearly felt was necessary. People like you make me laugh! Thanks for your input tho

Wow, I don't think that you know your arse from your elbow. Yeah you may be on a BMD site, but what you are continously posting and asking every other month is just plain stupid. Another poster had it correctly, you either like the drama or you are not that bright. Personally, I vote for both. That BM has you so shook; like predator to prey. After how many years and you are still entertaining the okey doke. You go back and forth, one minute stating that they have two kids and then other times you are only acknowledging just one. Who knows? Yup, I can choose to visit any site that I want..whenever I want.

[Art4884]

Bbrrr5-I think in this situation you need to just keep your eyes open but let your guard down just a little. You have to start somewhere. Always keep in mind who this woman is and the previous behavior she has shown. As far as the negative feedback you get from others, that's for the birds. NO ONE has the all mighty word but God so dismiss the devil and those who follow his path. You need to always pray about your situation and do not entertain the likes of fowl people. You will keep on keeping on....keep your head up and pray!