Post by Frustrated in NE on Jun 25, 2014 16:59:20 GMT -5
I am having so much anxiety, stress, worry, and even fear due to all of the mess that my husband's BM creates and causes. I have questioned my own perception and even entered therapy due to the stress over the matter. His son is now 14. With that being said. She has always tried to use my husbands son as a weapon emotionally and financially. In 2012 we had relocated due to my husbands employment and he had started paying support through the clearinghouse aka cs enforcement bc they will just hold it out of his check and then we wouldn't have to mail her personal checks. Soon after we received a signed by his BM affidavit stating that he had NOT paid support since the child was born....what the heck? He had never missed a payment! We thought ok, she is lying, not new, so we sent child support enforcement a copy of ALL of the checks signed by her and cashed that said "child support -month-year" in the memo. We thought we would be fine sending a copy of them and left it alone. Apparently if you pay the person directly rather than through cs enforcement or the "clearinghouse" then they can say they are gifts not support and that is what she is saying. We went to apply for a home loan a few weeks ago and found out that it recently went on his credit report that we owe her 50K in retroactive support...I am not sure how we weren't notified of this sooner or how in the world that she has so many rights and he has none. He is an excellent father and has never missed a child support payment but she decided she wanted the money twice? We are in the process of hiring an attorney which will be horrible with her because she will attempt to make things up and embarrass the heck out of us at court. Right after we moved she finally LET his son come see us(she never lets us have him when we are supposed to), and she had asked him to take pictures of the inside of our home right after the move when it was a mess with boxes and things everywhere so she could have them if she needed them to make us look bad. We caught him taking the photos and deleted them. Not that the home was a mess, but is was not in order, we had just moved! I know that my parenting skills are pretty good I have two boys from a previous marriage that my husband adopted and loves as his own, and I would not ever ask my kids to dig up any dirt on their dad so I could use it in court. Just saying. I do not know if a judge will declare the child support payments to her legally child support, does anyone have any experience with that? ALSO, when a parent gets a contempt for not following a custody order, our experience with her is that he will fine her 200 dollars for not letting us see him and she will pay it then still not let us see him...what do we do? -Frustrated
