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Post by Founder on Nov 6, 2020 3:03:34 GMT -5
Please join us as we discuss another dramatic story from our book "Baby Mama Drama - It's Not Just About The Mama" , it's so much more! “Sometimes If You Push Too Hard, You Run People Away””Baby mamas can be needy sometimes and I understand that, but this baby mama puts the “need” in needy. She calls me for everything. She calls me at night telling me the kids can’t sleep or that they need this and that. I don’t really have a problem with that, but asking me to fix her car or her house is pushing it. Then she wants to drop the kids off at the house without any planning. This is causing problems with my woman and I. I want to be there for my kids but I have actually started pulling back these days. I’m so conflicted! Baby Mama Drama - It's Not Just About The Mama - Theme 1 - Page 13 Click here to listen to the recorded reading of this story. Click here to get a printed or digital copy of the book. |
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Post by Founder on Nov 21, 2020 6:46:46 GMT -5
So What's The Deal Here? 1.) This seems like one of those situations where someone is trying to gain something by being the BM. Just because you have a child together doesn’t mean you are necessarily obligated to change a tire or cut the grass. Likewise and if you are the BM, you are not obligated to cook the BD’s food or rub his shoulders. 2.) It could be that the BM knows she is crossing the line and knows that this will cause trouble with the significant other. She (BM) may feel more important because he’s (BD) not married yet. 3.) The BM may still want to be connected and relevant. Some people have this notion that if you cared for them once then, you will always care. In some cases, they feel more important than the other woman or man that does not share a kid or parenting relationship. 4.) In this situation, the neediness of the BM is affecting the dad’s relationship with the children. They are losing time and attention from the father because of the requests related to her. 5.) They could also lose in the long run if he begins to feel apprehensive about his visits and reduces them to eliminate issues with his woman. Baby Mama Drama - It's Not Just About The Mama - Theme 1 - Page 13 Sincerely, Founder babymamadrama.comDISCLAIMER ----------- Please consult with your own legal or counseling professional regarding any information or suggestions. You understand that this information is not intended as a substitute for consultation with a legal professional. Before taking any action in your own co-parenting or family drama situation, you should consult a licensed professional to ensure that you are doing what is right for your situation. |
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Post by Founder on Nov 21, 2020 6:48:39 GMT -5
So What Can You Do? 1.) The BD has to balance his relationship with the children, BM, and significant other. There are compromises that have to be made all over the place. 2.) In a situation like this you have to have structure and boundaries. Be careful about going along with a situation such that it becomes the norm. 3.) Also when one household splits into two, adjustments in the relationships are expected. Has the BD had a talk with the BM? Does she know that he is frustrated? Does she know what the limits are of what he will and will not do? Again, it's probably something that he should get established. Baby Mama Drama - It's Not Just About The Mama - Theme 1 - Page 14 Sincerely, Founder babymamadrama.comDISCLAIMER ----------- Please consult with your own legal or counseling professional regarding any information or suggestions. You understand that this information is not intended as a substitute for consultation with a legal professional. Before taking any action in your own co-parenting or family drama situation, you should consult a licensed professional to ensure that you are doing what is right for your situation. |
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