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Post by nomoredrama on May 26, 2008 21:15:00 GMT -5
I have thought about this alot and I have some ideas of why a man would walk away from a situation.
1. BM has ruined the man's reputation...I know a man whose ex-wife has told lies to almost everyone about him. BM claims to have been physically abused by the man but admitted under oath that she lied about the abuse. Yet still, she still whines to everyone that she knows that her ex physically abused her. She even lies to the children with the same non-sense. I was very good friends with the couple and spent a lot of time at their house. I know that the woman is lying and she admitted it to me.
Yep, if I was the man, I might walk away from a lying lunatic like that.
2. BM has had the man arrested....The same man has been arrested twice behind his ex-wife. Each time, BM lied to get the arrest warrant. She has tried to ruin the man any way she can. Yes, if I was a man, I would walk away before I killed her!! She is lucky that the man did not snap when he got out of jail. But Karma is a mother...The woman met a man who beats the crap out of her...She doesn't have to lie to her children now. The kids saw the two fighting told their dad....Moral, be careful what you ask for. You just might get it....Now she is truly getting her A$$ beat!
3. BM is just straight up crazy...When someone has mental issues, they can be IMPOSSIBLE to deal with. The BM will fight you, cut you, all of that. Again, walk away before you kill the crazy winch.
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Post by yellabone2sexy on May 26, 2008 21:26:31 GMT -5
What's up with these ball less men shunning their responsibilities toward their children?
Why do men think they can walk away from their children, or not support the woman they got pregnant?
What on earth is happening to men these days?
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Post by nomoredrama on May 26, 2008 21:30:28 GMT -5
When you have a woman that is bent on destroying the man, it is best for the man to walk away to keep the peace. When women start doing things to threaten the man's freedom, she is walking on deadly ground. I did not say that the man should not support the child. I said he should walk away in certain instances. Why put yourself in a situation that could turn violent?
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Post by georgiapeach on May 26, 2008 21:35:58 GMT -5
That's walking away from the woman. Why would you walk away from your child who needs you. Their are ways to get to see your children you can have the police escort you to visitation and sit outside the house. It is unjustifiable unless they are threatening to kill you personally.
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Post by nomoredrama on May 26, 2008 21:39:13 GMT -5
Oh, add that to my list as item #4. Woman threatening to kill the man or vice versa.
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Post by memyslfni on May 26, 2008 21:41:09 GMT -5
WHYnot, being a female its hard to walk away from another in their efforts to annoy me. And lets not forget about all the domestic violence going on nowdays. What man wants to ruin their record or go to jail for some ignorant broad?
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Post by georgiapeach on May 26, 2008 21:44:19 GMT -5
It's not about the man but the child.
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Post by nomoredrama on May 26, 2008 21:47:19 GMT -5
Tell that to my friend who was locked up twice behind his ex-wife's foolishness. It is kind of hard to think about a child when you are in his situation. Again, I wanted to beat her A$$, so I know that he wanted to kill her. I still tell my friend to watch his back because his ex is such a nutcase, I could see her trying to knock him off. When you have an ex like that, it is hard to brush it off and say, I am going to go thru this for the child. Instead, you have to walk away so that the child does not lose a mother to the father bashing her face in.
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Post by yellabone2sexy on May 26, 2008 21:53:29 GMT -5
I feel like some men just choose to take the easy way out. It's easy to walk away and blame the other person. It's not easy to deal with the situation you created and take responsibility even in unfavorable circumstances. My granny used to always tell me an my sister the good book (what she called the Bible) says if you won't be faithful over small things you won't be over big things. She taught us to apply it to every aspect of our lives, if you don't keep yourself up and you aren't married you won't do it when you are married, if you don't watch your weight when you're young you won't do it when your old. So I say all that to say if a man is willing to walk away because the situation isn't favorable to him, he wanted to walk away anyway.
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Post by yellabone2sexy on May 26, 2008 21:55:54 GMT -5
Why not learn to control his emotions so he can teach the child to do the same. Because people are always going to be trying to hurt and spite us it's the world we live in. Those who can't control themselves end up in jail. Limit contact for the childs sake why just cut it out completely.
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Post by nomoredrama on May 26, 2008 21:57:30 GMT -5
No, I believe that sometimes a person has to make the best decision for their situation. And some crazy BMs can push a person to walk away. You have not said that you have done the crazy things to your BD that my friend's ex has done to him. It is a difference between a BM keeping the child away and/or harassing the BD with child support reviews than the BM doing things to get the man arrested. Again, that is a dangerous situation. The man is right to walk away.
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Post by destini1969 on May 26, 2008 22:06:03 GMT -5
Child support is there to support the child and not the custodial parent. If the custodial parent decides to misuse the financial support that's on that person. Child support is there for the C-H-I-L-D and not the custodial parent whether it's BM or BD.
When situations become too crazy, it's in the best interest of the child for that parent to remove themselves from that situation! A child shouldn't suffer because of the ignorance or misguidance from their parent(s).
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Post by yellabone2sexy on May 26, 2008 22:13:48 GMT -5
Why is it when men walk away from their children some people choose to attempt to justify it? When women walk away from their children no one attempts to justify it I see a double standard. Why is it when the man choose to walk away it is the BM's fault? When BM chooses to keep the child away for the same reasons it is still BM's fault? I'm not following the logic on this site someone help me please?
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Post by angelnmo on May 26, 2008 22:25:19 GMT -5
It's kind of like when a woman gives her child up for adoption. She does so, not because she doesn't love her child (most of the time) but because she feels that she cannot provide for the child the way the child deserves to be provided for. And there are two kinds of adoptions. Open and closed. The mother may choose to have no contact with the child until 18 because she feels it is best for herself and the child, or she may choose to provide information throughout childhood and remain in contact with the child.
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Post by Jab on Dec 5, 2020 2:26:30 GMT -5
What's up with these ball less men shunning their responsibilities toward their children? Why do men think they can walk away from their children, or not support the woman they got pregnant? What on earth is happening to men these days? cause there smart not only should he walk away the child will not be far behind when they realize its also healthier n safer but then its ok u can't mk good on your responsibility if those responsibilities are not offered or taken away i know u wanna take part n making the baby but can't meet your responsibilities on ur own so j have to take 100% of uf childsupport rather than 50% handle youf responsibilities of learning to behave like a mother j wanns run people off then don't cry about when us bread winners walk away to raise a child n a healthy Relationship. U can't have it all mom u can't be an alcoholic cheating sleeper n expect people to stay n give u more come on if she can't change her behavior to keep the father involved then dont pregnant dog your n no way anymore important speaking of balls the courts have balls also balls enough to make j required 100% of financial responsibilities if she outta her mind abusive insane leave her walk away after all it is a man's world. My dear feminists. Trapping men for money what valuex |
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