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Post by wbmama on Mar 22, 2008 6:40:50 GMT -5
I have a BM who is not very nice. (Still in love with my husband). I have tried to be nice to her - invite her over, etc. Then I've tried to ignore her. Nothing really works. Here's my question...as a wife, how should I interact with the BM ? Or should I at all? I mean, her small child does live in my house on occasion.  |
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Post by cloudy752001 on Mar 25, 2008 17:05:21 GMT -5
Looka here, you are in the driver's seat. You donot have to cater to this BM at all! You may cater to the small child all day, because that is a peace of your husband. If she chooses to be an idiot, then that's her problem. Let her live in her miserable life. She lost control when she and your husband broke up. Keep ignoring her before she begins to make you as miserable as her.
We women tend to try to do things to earn points for our men. Don't do it. Stand your ground from the jump so it will already be embedded in both (BM and your husband)of their heads that you will not tolerate the nonsense.
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Post by BabyMamaDramaof2 on Mar 26, 2008 17:36:12 GMT -5
You do you! Don't cater to her needs that's what she wants try to stay on her good side because it will be easier but when you see her say your how you doings smile and leave.
Good Luck
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Post by downazzchick on Mar 28, 2008 23:57:47 GMT -5
Girl, this is a good question. I have tried everything from ignoring her, killing her with kindness, flaunting my relationship in her face, talking about his faults (only those she would know about), spoiling her kids, trying to help her further her career (so she can get out of his pocket), threatening to assault her (if she overstepped my boundaries). U name it. We've tried it and it is kinda like a revolving door. One minute we are in agreement another we are at each other's throats. I think that i have put up the effort to make the relationship work, but if it doesn't to heck with it!
Just remember to keep it cool in front of the kids and never bash the other in front of the kids
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Post by august on Mar 31, 2008 16:06:46 GMT -5
god, I am so glad I am not alone. I've been going through a crappy situation with his baby momma for the past few years, she HATES me and is still in love with my man. Still won't let me be alone with the child and professes her love to him all the time. The texting and phone calls are what bother me MOST, that and her calling me names behind my back.
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Post by cloudy752001 on Mar 31, 2008 16:34:42 GMT -5
If he wanted it to stop, it would. He needs a good talking to. A BM should never have that much access. Only for the child's sake should she be CALLING him texting is suspect and also NOT an option.
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Post by wowposter on Sept 8, 2008 19:50:31 GMT -5
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Post by wowposter on Sept 9, 2008 10:09:49 GMT -5
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