Post by youknowwhatitis on Jun 3, 2008 14:49:43 GMT -5
Throughout my time here on the board I have came to some conclusions:
1.) The BM is often used as an excuse to justify the man's lack of responsiblility and involvement.
Kind of like how whites use statistics and old bible stories to justify racism.
2.) There are some BM's who simply cant stand the fact that there kids dad is with someone else and will cause trouble anyway that they can--they are often successful.
3.) There are some people who simply will want to feel as if they are better than you both black and other cultures. They will not attempt to understand you only to discredit you to attempt to make themselves appear better than you.
4.) Any man who uses a woman as an excuse as to why he does not interact with his children is full of sh*t. He doesn't interact with them because he doesn't want to and is bitter because their mom is receiving his money and his gf or wifey is probably upset about that too.
5.)The less you tell people about yourself and your past and future the better because depending on the set of circumstances they may attempt to use it against you.
6.)A lot of people are ALL about self they claim it should be about the kids but then they turn the argument around and make it about the BD and the money. Wait I thought it was supposed to be about the kids.
7.) There are good and bad in everything....good BM's and bad BM's, good BD's and bad BD's. It's just the way it is.
8.)Some women are desperate and WILL do anything for her man including lie, justify non-sense, and attempt to take his BM down for him...(which should be his job) all in attempt to keep a man and his money. They claim the BM is against them...but the truth is in return they are against the BM.
9.)Some men are simply boys that never grow up and never learn to mature and deal with adversity and conflict so they do what little boys do when a situation is NOT favorable to them RUN and HIDE.
10.)Some people have f*cked up mentality's that lead them to believe that they are Jesus Christ superstar and that they are superior to all other's. Many people thrive on their feelings of superiority to another how sick.
11.)Receiving child support makes you a BAD person to some people. And some people will rather dwell on your short comings then on your successes we call those HATERS.
12.) For me personally, I have learned that to be INDEPENDENT and free from the outside opinions of others and to make my own decision about me my situation and what's best for my son. I have realized to follow the Holy spirit's leading which is often illogical and not man's opinion. Every situation is different because it involves different people with different values and different belief systems.
If you don't interact with your kids you simply don't value them.
If you don't allow your kids to interact with their father you simply don't value his presence in their life.
If your BM or BD doesn't interact with you they simply don't value you. What difference does it make you weren't put here for them.
If you don't encourage your DH to interact with and provide for his other children it shows that you don't value his children or his relationship with them.
That does not mean anything bad about YOU because someone doesn't value you a lot of times it just means that they are stupid because they don't see the value in you.
And sometimes the men are stupid because they don't see the value in those children into it is too late and they have become successful and they won't want to interact with you then.
Some people will deliberately not value you in attempt to hurt your feelings. Ex. Racism
What have you learned from the board?
1.) The BM is often used as an excuse to justify the man's lack of responsiblility and involvement.
Kind of like how whites use statistics and old bible stories to justify racism.
2.) There are some BM's who simply cant stand the fact that there kids dad is with someone else and will cause trouble anyway that they can--they are often successful.
3.) There are some people who simply will want to feel as if they are better than you both black and other cultures. They will not attempt to understand you only to discredit you to attempt to make themselves appear better than you.
4.) Any man who uses a woman as an excuse as to why he does not interact with his children is full of sh*t. He doesn't interact with them because he doesn't want to and is bitter because their mom is receiving his money and his gf or wifey is probably upset about that too.
5.)The less you tell people about yourself and your past and future the better because depending on the set of circumstances they may attempt to use it against you.
6.)A lot of people are ALL about self they claim it should be about the kids but then they turn the argument around and make it about the BD and the money. Wait I thought it was supposed to be about the kids.
7.) There are good and bad in everything....good BM's and bad BM's, good BD's and bad BD's. It's just the way it is.
8.)Some women are desperate and WILL do anything for her man including lie, justify non-sense, and attempt to take his BM down for him...(which should be his job) all in attempt to keep a man and his money. They claim the BM is against them...but the truth is in return they are against the BM.
9.)Some men are simply boys that never grow up and never learn to mature and deal with adversity and conflict so they do what little boys do when a situation is NOT favorable to them RUN and HIDE.
10.)Some people have f*cked up mentality's that lead them to believe that they are Jesus Christ superstar and that they are superior to all other's. Many people thrive on their feelings of superiority to another how sick.
11.)Receiving child support makes you a BAD person to some people. And some people will rather dwell on your short comings then on your successes we call those HATERS.
12.) For me personally, I have learned that to be INDEPENDENT and free from the outside opinions of others and to make my own decision about me my situation and what's best for my son. I have realized to follow the Holy spirit's leading which is often illogical and not man's opinion. Every situation is different because it involves different people with different values and different belief systems.
If you don't interact with your kids you simply don't value them.
If you don't allow your kids to interact with their father you simply don't value his presence in their life.
If your BM or BD doesn't interact with you they simply don't value you. What difference does it make you weren't put here for them.
If you don't encourage your DH to interact with and provide for his other children it shows that you don't value his children or his relationship with them.
That does not mean anything bad about YOU because someone doesn't value you a lot of times it just means that they are stupid because they don't see the value in you.
And sometimes the men are stupid because they don't see the value in those children into it is too late and they have become successful and they won't want to interact with you then.
Some people will deliberately not value you in attempt to hurt your feelings. Ex. Racism
What have you learned from the board?
