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Post by sickofit on Jun 5, 2008 9:20:44 GMT -5
My situation... my Fiance: student on limited income,/financial aid, going through his doctorate program, doesnt work ( he takes around 30 credits) BM: lives at home with her whole family ( mom,dad,grown adult sibling) she works full time, her dad doesnt work and her mom only works fulltime, she actually admited to maybe over guessing her expenses (DUH!!) parents and her went out and bought brand new cars (hmmm wonder with what money??), He was paying her almost 500 a month!!!! we are currently going to court to get that reduced! Anyhow I know I can't or her can't controll how the money is spent.. how how much do you think is too much?? I mean comedian chris tucker only pays 254.00 a month!?!? www.mediatakeout.com/23118/woman_wins_child_support_case_against_actor_chris_tucker__but_she_only_gets_25400_a_month.html |
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Post by sbimiss on Jun 5, 2008 11:00:35 GMT -5
Yes, my bf on plays 235 and some change a month. The 500$ had to be based off of income that he was making. What did he show that he was making enough to cover that? Now when you go back for a modification, have documentation for him to show that he does not acquire enough income to cover that at all. They will give him a reasonable amt. that will be more suitable to his budget. He should also mention that her living expenses and so on are not that much because she is living with her parents who aid her. This is a very unfair situation. I don't understand why if a man does not want to be with the mother of the child, he has to go through so much trouble just to have a shot at a normal and successful life. Your situation is a prime example of how the cs system has failed to do it's job accordingly.
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Post by gemmani on Jun 5, 2008 11:21:24 GMT -5
LOL!!!! I'm sorry ladies, but this cracks me up (only way to keep from my mind cracking up). Of course its too high! It always is, b/c the courts always favor the females, no matter how unnecessary it is. Our BM lives with family and pays no rent, utilities or anything. My fiance pays almost $2800 a month for 3 kids. If that isn't a joke Idk what is. The court system is a JOKE. We have 30 days to appeal, we are preparing our finances as we speak. All I can say is, get a lawyer. You'll need it. I'm sorry that we all have to deal with this.
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Post by sickofit on Jun 5, 2008 12:27:52 GMT -5
Yes we have gotten a lawyer at the time he was reciving the same amount of financial aid but was working on his bachelors at the time.. not his doctorates... I still do not know how they figure financial aid into the eqaution.. I didn't know that they could "go after government aid" ...the lawyers recalculated and they are figuring around 350 now... that is still too much to me...since her (the BM) only real expenses is her child.... yah the court system is crazzzyyy!!! hopefully when I'm done with my criminal justice degree I can go to law school take these CBM to the cleaners!!!
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Post by just2beme on Jun 5, 2008 18:22:57 GMT -5
Ladies consider yourself lucky. DH pays almost $1000 for 1 child. We have learned to live without the income because we never see it. The key is to reorganize finances to account for the child support. I don't worry about how BM spends the child support as long as the child is not being neglected.
I believe that your fiance needs to get a job. There are many people that work and attend school. He has a responsibility to his child as does the BM. Expenses for the child do not stop because he decides to go back to school.
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Post by sickofit on Jun 5, 2008 19:40:33 GMT -5
Yea.. I understand just2beme but he is full time in a doctorates program doing his internship, has classes mon-fri. pretty much from 7am-6pm, boards..etc.... he is in the process of getting his education (unlike the BM) to provide a better future for his child....
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Post by just2beme on Jun 5, 2008 20:24:50 GMT -5
I understand what you are saying but he can NOT work when there is a child to be taken care of. It is great that he is going to school but the child has to live NOW. BD can get at least a part time job if he is struggling that much. Adults and parents must do what is necessary. It sounds like the grandparents are the only people doing what is necessary to support the child and it is not their responsibility. Kudos to the grandparents.
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Post by whenwillwomenlearn on Jun 8, 2008 2:01:01 GMT -5
The deadbeat needs to get a job! So what if the BM bought a new car. She is working full time. Who is taking care of your fiance since he isn't working? I bet you are!
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Post by sickofit on Jun 9, 2008 9:56:20 GMT -5
Okay whenwillwomenlearn.... he is not a deadbeat..never missed a payment thank you very much, keeps in contact with his child, etc... and No I'm not taking care of him either we are both fulltime students making something of ourselves...How we manage financially, that's none of your concern. ..
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