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Post by downazzchick on Mar 28, 2008 22:54:38 GMT -5
[glow=red,2,300]HERE WE GO AGAIN......ALL THIS DRAMA! [/glow]Sometimes I have to ask myself "How did I get in all this Mess". Letting other people upset me to the point where I can't even think straight. Well, I am the Baby's Mama and I am a wife of a BD. I have basically been through it all on both ends and it keeps getting better everyday! I get so frustrated at times that i could literally scream out loud. I have to admit that sometimes I placed myself in these situations and other times I've been placed in them. Anyway I have to deal with this drama on a daily basis and it doesn't seem like it will ever end. It is always SOMETHING! Have you ever felt like this? Let me know How you found yourself in this DRAMA.......
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Post by lovejones on Mar 29, 2008 0:31:28 GMT -5
I found myself is this situation when I found love with a man who made poor decisions in his early twenties with a chick he knew was a fool while he continued to lay with her because it was soemthing to do, but I must admit that all of the drama and hardships she has put him through because she is miserable has made him a better man for me. I look at it this way it's not easy but our love together and his love for his daughter is worth it. You don't have to work hard at something that isn't worth. I'll be d**ned if I let another fool of a female take away my joy and happiness with a man that loves me dearly.Everybody male and female has their own baggage. BM, she can kick rocks and barefoot.
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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 9, 2008 21:11:25 GMT -5
I am the bm of an ignorant bd who I share my son with and I am also the the future wifey of a bd who fathered my daughter. Me and fiance met at work, fell in love with kids and been together ever since. We been fighten off bm's and bd for quite a while. I think its to the point where we have become immune to it all. Fortunately at this point none of them has really over stepped their boundaries.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 10, 2008 5:03:13 GMT -5
Well, I call myself a BM (because I have kids by my ex husband). So I see it from that end. All was well with our relationship until his gf moved in. She's refused to meet me. What can I do?
My DH has kids by 2 woman - 1 he divorced (we have a great relationship) and 1 he didn't marry (my CBM).
She has been a nightmare for him from the beginning. Then when I came into the picture it was like pouring gas on a fire. We try to deal with her as a team. He's able to let go of her stupid games sometimes easier than I am. I want to call her on EVERYTHING she does to hurt someone in my family. But I hold back. This is my outlet! And one of my best friends who knows everything about this mess!
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Post by jaylady999 on Jul 17, 2008 16:58:53 GMT -5
I am both a BM and the wife of a BD. One the end of the BM, there is no drama because I wont allow for it to be. My son is 11y/o and about the most drama I get from the side of my own BD is that his current girlfriend cannot wrap her head around the fact that a BD and BM can actually be civil and not be at all out war. I've been nothing but friendly to her, but she turns her nose up and barely speaks. But thats HER problem not mine so I dont feed into. I am married and my husband is my life. Which brings me to his BM. They basically have been on again/off again since they were in their teens and they now have 2 children in the aftermath. She has always felt that once he was done running the streets and messing around with his different women that he would come back to her and they would live happily ever after. Her plans for HIS life changed when he met me, dated me for 5 yrs, lived with me for 4 of those and then married me. Point blank, she's bitter. But life goes on and after years of drama from her, I dont worry about her anymore. I am only concerned about my kids(my 1 and his 2) and being the best that I can for them so that they are happy. Her choices were to either deal with the fact that her BD has moved on, or not. Either way, my life goes on.
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Post by gemmani on Jul 18, 2008 11:05:36 GMT -5
I'm engaged to a BD, getting married in two months. I met him at work, were friends for 2 months then we made it official. Been together for about 2 years. He has 3 kids from his ex-girlfriend of about 6 years. The big issue between them apparently was that she though he should marry her, but since she was nuts he kept second guessing everything. When I came into the picture, she tried to accuse me of abusing their oldest daughter (never met me), tried to do anything that would make me leave. When she heard of our engagement, she flipped, especially b/c I didn't have to "trap him" by having a baby. Haha. So here I am.
This board helps me vent and keep things in perspective. Instead of driving my fiance insane, I can say what I want here and then let it go. Plus, I get insight about potential problems that may arrise, I can see how others handle the drama. My fiance encourages me to post here. He likes hearing the different opinions ( and I like proving how right I am!).
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Post by sbimiss on Jul 18, 2008 12:19:45 GMT -5
gemmani I like what you had to say about why you are here and what this board provides you. I especially like your last statement. lol
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Post by ty1981 on Jul 18, 2008 13:56:43 GMT -5
I am engaged to a BD who was very foolish in his 20's. He had a baby with a booty call at 17, married a different woman and had a baby, only to get divorced and have another baby with banana cream pie( see katz william's joke on BM) first child's mother. My fiancee is now a much wiser 35. I am 26. Banana cream pie has hated me from day one. However, his ex-wife and I get along great and I love my future SD as if she were my own. His ex-wife has remarried and had a beautiful little boy(who I send birthday and christmas gifts to with my SD's gifts). Banana cream pie is still waiting for my fiancee to retire from the air force so they can get married(delusional psychopath).
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Post by gemmani on Jul 21, 2008 10:41:28 GMT -5
Thanks sbimiss, back at u with the comments you have for my posts  Always very enlightening. |
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Post by wowposter on Sept 8, 2008 19:50:49 GMT -5
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Post by wowposter on Sept 9, 2008 10:10:17 GMT -5
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