Post by gemmani on Jul 18, 2008 10:23:34 GMT -5
There we go, Punkdude! See before, we couldn't help you because you were content to stay misserable, but I'm very glad to hear about your change of outlook.
Now, don't switch from obsessing over her to hating her. She is still the mother of your child, and its good to maintain a proper relationship with her.
You know how you might start? Take a page from Youknowhwatitis. Write your BM a letter. Tell her how sorry you are for everything you have put her through. Tell her what you were thinking at the time, just be fully honest. (Don't expect her to run and take you back. This letter is for your own personal healing) You can tell her you will always love her, but that you know its time for you to move on and heal yourself so that you can be the best father you can be to your son. APOLOGIZE FOR TELLING HER YOU HOPE HER INSIDES ROT. That was way harsh.
Now as for getting over her, it will take some time. Give yourself at least 2-6 months. Like I had stated before, take up some hobbies, continue your education, make sure you spend time with your "support group", whether it be friends, family, your pet dog or goldfish. Don't go to places that remind you of her. Find new hangouts. Don't go looking for a new romance now, you aren't ready for that yet. Just focus on YOU and your son for now. The hurt will fade.
Now, don't switch from obsessing over her to hating her. She is still the mother of your child, and its good to maintain a proper relationship with her.
You know how you might start? Take a page from Youknowhwatitis. Write your BM a letter. Tell her how sorry you are for everything you have put her through. Tell her what you were thinking at the time, just be fully honest. (Don't expect her to run and take you back. This letter is for your own personal healing) You can tell her you will always love her, but that you know its time for you to move on and heal yourself so that you can be the best father you can be to your son. APOLOGIZE FOR TELLING HER YOU HOPE HER INSIDES ROT. That was way harsh.
Now as for getting over her, it will take some time. Give yourself at least 2-6 months. Like I had stated before, take up some hobbies, continue your education, make sure you spend time with your "support group", whether it be friends, family, your pet dog or goldfish. Don't go to places that remind you of her. Find new hangouts. Don't go looking for a new romance now, you aren't ready for that yet. Just focus on YOU and your son for now. The hurt will fade.