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Post by A Mad Woman on Jun 27, 2008 15:51:40 GMT -5
hey all problem, my boyfriend and I live together....today is the 1st day since the baby was born that he has been given the chance to have him without her, the only thing is I can't be around. She came to drop the baby off and wouldn't give him the baby unless she could come in the house to ensure I wasn't there to posion him. LOL really! But he told her he would come and get him out the car and she drove off. She told him it is half his house and he should let her in and when he told her well she doesnt want you in here, she became upset and left. She came back and began to respect the wishes but this is becoming a nightmare becuz nobody is thinking of this baby only themselves.
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Post by gemmani on Jun 27, 2008 16:38:18 GMT -5
Tellit's right. Once you have court-ordered visitation, there is nothing she can do (legally) to keep the baby away from BD. Of course, that may not stop her, some BMs do what they want despite what the court says. But as long as your BF is standing up for you, you've won half the battle. Nothing worse than your SO not standing up for you. Set boundaries FAST- you give an inch, they'll take 10 miles. After a visitation order is established, she also cannot tell you that you can't be around the baby. She needs to realize that the baby will now have 2 households, and that she cannot control both, she cannot control who is around.
Well, its not the most enjoyable situation to deal with, so good luck. We are all here with you, we know what you are going through.
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Post by youknowwhatitis on Jun 27, 2008 20:47:26 GMT -5
She is just being silly.....She needs to mature and realize she cannot control who he has around the baby. Be happy and realize the baby has a father who wants to be involved and use that time to celebrate herself. Silly girl has it good and wants to mess it up!
**She may think you will mistreat or dislike the child because it is hers. Really nothing you can do to make her believe different.
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Post by A Man Woman on Jun 28, 2008 17:44:03 GMT -5
I agree with everyone and im not trying be her friend or nothing like that but this is messing up my relationship and Im just tired of dealing immature adults. I rather deal with babies. LOL! But she is nuts! She was telling him its half his house and he should let her in and stuff like that. She wants to control everything and everyone.
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Post by sbimiss on Jun 29, 2008 11:30:53 GMT -5
Yea, she is def. being ridiculous. She is just trying to make the possible impossible. That is your house as well so, your rules as well. I def. would not tolerate this. It is hard to stay focused on the best interests of the child when someone is taking your focus elsewhere. I think she is just very uncomfortable leaving the child with you around because she doesn't know who you are. She doesn't want another woman mothering her child becuase no one in her mind is capable of caring for her child like she does. She may be right but I'm sure you can take care of the child in the best way you know how. I'm sure she will soften up after a while because she can't control who is around her child when the child is with the father. That's just life. The child will have 2 separate household's and she will have to accept that as an adult and as a mother.
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Post by babydaddysupport on Jul 5, 2008 22:19:22 GMT -5
If he does not have Court Ordered visitation, tell him to get it and make sure his lawyer puts one very important sentence in it...."The police may intervene to enforce this Order." Then if she denies the visit, he can call a police officer to assist him. If she denies the officer, she can be arrested. We had to go back to court for that one sentence, but it has saved us a ton of turmoil! Best of luck to you.
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