Post by wifey2008050607 on Mar 29, 2008 3:09:31 GMT -5
(Its alot to read but i hope someone that can be helpful reads it i am desperate for advice?)
Hello all, I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months. we are long distance he lives 2hrs from me, Ok when I first was talking to him he warned me that his baby momma, was some work. He said she had driven off his other girlfriends by snatching his phone when he would come get the baby, or carry her somewhere and memorize the numbers and get them out of his phone and call them. So I decided well I ll give him a chance he seems like a nice guy in bad situation. Ok so for the first 3 months things are fine im liking him he liking me we styaing up early in the mornings talking and we sending each other texts messages and etc. And One day I call him and he is at her house well actually her grandmothers house cause she stays with her grandparents. She is 18 he is 23 i am 22. Anyways he picks up says hello and she is arguing with him and says o you going to get on the phone so you trying to play me now with that ole ugly dog and blah blah so i ask him if he wants me to call him back and he says yea. Ok he tells me that this girl cut him a while be4 we were talking cause he told her she need to go on and move on and find someone to date cause he said like so they had been broken up and she kept running his other girlfriends away so when they left he was still messing with her. I asked why and he was like so she wouldnt fuss and fight me and so she wouldnt argue in front of my son. Then he called when he got home. Ok times goes by one day im sittin ova my friend house and i get a text. And it says stop texting me pregnant dog. And Im like nigga say what? Then Another text Leave my baby daddy alone he aint thinking about yo ass. So i call to see if he is there cause i know men are just that crooked but he wasnt, but she answered so im like look im grown dont call my phone, and she basically drowned me out and said the same thing i just typed. So I text back thinking he gotta be there under her cause she called from his phone not hers. So thinking he done backhanded me i text and say you know what be wit the pyshco pregnant dog ok forget you both. Then I geat a call from him in about 10min. Then he says look i went ova to her house to get my son and i pulled my phone out to call my aunt to see if she would keep him cause i had to work and she had to work but she act like she aint want my aunt to keep him she wanted me to stay out of work and she go when i make more than her. So i went to call my aunt and cancel and she snatched my phone and ran in her house with it and locked the door, and after she got finish texting you and who ever she thought i was talking to she through my phone out the door and said i called your pregnant dog and them other hoes. So you want to leave me now so its over and he kinda sounded like he was under pressure like he wasnt lying so I let it go and decided to stay with him cause ok you cant help if she took your phone.
One day he is taking her somewhere and they are over his aunt house and she says someting to him and throws his phone out the car and breaks it, throws his cds out the car and just trys to fight him and act the fool. He trys to get another restraining order and cant.
Ok in a lil bit things are copastetic then another problem arises he is taking her to the hospital, to walmart, and to get something to eat and other things. And Im like why? And he like she dont have a car and sometimes we have to go shopping for my son, and im like you can shop for your son yourself make a list and do it yourself adults dont need help. And ok she dont got a car i see if she had to go to the doctor ok and your son had to goto the doctor ok but all those other things arent your problem. If she want to get there bad enuff she will find a way she just expects you to do everything which shouldnt be. He also was taking money from her like 50 dollars here and there for gas n etc im like you shouldnt be taking money from her you should be giving her money if anything. and so we argued about that cause i m like that makes me look dum another woman givin my man money wtf.
Then one day i ask him why you dont just keep it short and sweet, say hey how you doing get your son and leave dont answer no text messages if aint about your son. He going to tell me last time i did that she aint talk to me for a whole week. and im like so, and he lashed out look I have to get my son, and im liek what that got to do with it and he was like i got to communicate with her. I said yea but that dont mean entertain her to do it or kissin ass to get your son. He was like well sometimes you have to play along to avoid drama being shown infront of my son. Im like naw you could handle it another way you just too lazy not too. And we kinda almost broke up ova that too.
Then around valentines day he tells me he got her somthing for v-day im like wait say what? He was like well she dont have a valentine and im just trying to be nice. So im like so v-day gifts are for me your girlfriend not bm if she dont got no valentine tuff cookies. N i was telling him what some of my friends said about him doing that and he was like well your friends aint have a baby by her either im like so what a baby wow dont mean she get a gift your not together and he was like well we might not work out then if you trippin about that. So we was about to break ova that until he thought about it and talked it ova with his unlce and came to the conclusion that yea he should of asked me first and thought about my feelings and that he just wont be nice and bbuy her any gifts like that anymore.
Ok then in a while he comes to see me and we r exchanging presnts for v day his birthday and my birthday, I got alot of girly stuff and he got two shirts, 2 pairs of shoes, pictures, and keychain, and we have a romantic evening and become intimante.
Ok so i give him a keychain with my picture on it and he puts it on his keyring to his car keys. Ok 2 days after he gets back home, at 2am at night on that 2nd day he calls me and tells me he just been in another fight. And Im like omg with who and he is like bm and im like how. And he is like well i was on my way hom form work when i got there to the my aunt house cause he live with his aunt she was there and she asked me to go get the our son which is 1yr old some pedialyte cause her grandparents didnt feel like takeing her n wouldnt carry her to the store. So he says i decided to be nice and took her. He said she asks were did you get that keychain from you aint have it be4. He was so i didnt want to hear her mouth i said naw i been had it it was in my glove compartment, and she said naw you went and got it from that girl. He said ok. I know she prolly seen his shoes i got him or something, He said he was on the phone with one of his homeboys the whole time and then while walking to the cash register he was talking to one of his female friends. He says she was trying to play in the store and he pushed her and told her to lets hurry up and go. And he siad they pay and are driving back to carry her hom and he hangs up and she snatches the phone and starts going through it, and he said he pulls over and trys to get the phone back and she starts fighting him, and pulling on his shirts and he wallows out of it she scratches and bites him. And a cop sees them and takes her in for assault cause he was bruised and she was untouched. He said she tries to give him her bankcard to get money out to get her out and im like was she serious and im like thats how much she takes to be a fool fo her cause she has your child. and he was like no call your grandma. He gets a restraining order against her. She is still texting him and callin restricted for a while. Then in a few weeks he is texting her again. And he says he is trying to go through domestics courts and get a longer restraining order and get support established, and visitation rights for his son. Cause she wont accept child support from him. Ok she calls my phone some weeks later saying o u stupid pregnant dog u dum cause he still f**king me, and we f**k every other day, and i be around him all the time he just tell me to be quite and not say nothing, and we had sex while you was on the phone, and im like wow i dont think that is possible i know when we are doing he couldnt but i dont know some people can i guess. But anyways, she was like we been f**kin every since yall been together and thats why he got another baby on the way by me, and she was like u dum pregnant dog, and she started quoting alot of my business and then she was like thats why he said he about to be through with yo ass and about to come back to me cause you always complaining cause he be out wit his friends adn be helping me you jealous pregnant dog he do for his baby momma he do anytinhg for me. So im like ok i know you still love and like him but i dont have anyting to do with that im just a girlfriend if he dont want you he dont he siad he aint want to be with you cause you want to fight and fuss all the time and yea he did say if you werent like that he wouldnt be with me we would just be friends but thats not the case he said you had your chances and you blew them your loss sorry. Then she just kept cussin in my ear.
But ok he tells me well change your number, and that she is lying the only things that had any truth was the pregnant part. He was like well she mite be pregnant for me from when i was messing with her be4 you but she was on the shot and i use condom but it mite of broke and etc but he said i dont know if its mine though but it might be from be4.
Ok so everything blows over im playin it cool
till the next day i call him like at 2am in the morining cause he just text me cause at 1:30am he got off work and told me he was on his way home. So i call him and he is rushing me off the phone and im like why u rushing me off cause he is like let me call you back and im like why and he is like its an emergency im like with who and he is like my son and im like whats wrong with your son and he is like well not him but its early in her pregnacy and she having contractions and bleeding and her grandma had to take her to the hospital and im trying to see who got my son and im like why the guy who mite got her pregnant not on the phone with her. And he is like i told you when we were first going out i got her pregnant. And i admit i lost it i cussed and i fussed liek nooooooooo you didnt. he told me she might be well you read it you know, and i hung up and texted him cause i was too mad to talk . I was like u f**king liar you hoe blah blah....and he was like well if you dont believe what i have told you then you can move on cause i told u he was like i dont know if it is mine n etc, but anyways we get over it. Then you know we makeup we get a room and this was suppose to be a day to just us no one else alone time. Ok we are cuddling in bed and watching tv and he is texting her cause he told me and someone pushed his son down and he got a big knot on his head. Ok why text him about that wtf? So i didn t say anything about it that day cause i aint want to ruin the mood but the next day we discuss he doesnt see the wrong in it im like ok a bump on the head she can handle herself she is intruding on your personal life. I mean im a monther i know. I dont dare call my child father everytime they get hurt well not like that cause im a caregiver i can handle it she just think she can do it cause you let her you dont set boudaries and he reply my son got hurt i want to know about it and make sure he is ok im like its a bruise so what. But Im having problems coping with all this im trying to get him to reason with me but sometimes its like talking to a brick i dont know what to do anymore. He says i need to just stay out there buisness adn let him handle things when it comes to her and his son but im like if you knew what oyu were doing theings wouldnt be the way they are right now. Im growing impatient and im sick to my stomach cause she might have another child of his and im trying but im about drained of it. I want things to work i love him that much i want all of us to get along but i also want him to set boundaries and just step up.