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Post by youknowwhatitis on Jul 4, 2008 16:23:26 GMT -5
Bd is still sending silly ass text messages. Getting very tired of the childishness now. Should I respond and give his azz the business or should I mellow out and stay focused on the big picture?
Should I text something like: I have moved on. I don't have time for childishness. My man and I are getting tired of your silliness. Grow up. We are over and DONE. Our son is well provided for and loved. Move on with your life.
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Post by sbimiss on Jul 5, 2008 21:05:54 GMT -5
youknow.....I actually think your choice of words are a harsh reality. It might serve you both some good. So, I say go for it. Sometimes, if someone can't see the truth right in their face, it's a shame but necessary you resort to shoving it down their throat.  |
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Post by gemmani on Jul 8, 2008 11:15:45 GMT -5
Say (or text) what you have to say in as few words as possible. Short and to the point. Then if he continues to send texts, ignore them. You can say something like, unless you have to say something regarding our son, I don't have time for you. Then IGNORE HIM. I find that all that silliness is a cry for attention. If you refuse to give him the attention he want from you, then its just not so fun for him anymore. ****WARNING*** THE GAMES WILL GET WORSE BEFORE THEY GET BETTER. He will double his efforts and probably annoy the living crap out of you. But stay firm, and refuse to address him. He'll learn his place, like all dogs do, lol. BM used to stay calling and texting my fiance. At one point (I hadn't even said anything to him about it yet) He let her calls go to voicemail, doesn't answer texts. Of course, it's my fault for that, go figure. But it was a power/ control thing. She wanted him to drop everything for her whenever she called. I'm guessing she wanted to show me that she runs things around here. Nope, not so much. I'm guessing your BD is unhappy with himself and his life and its YOUR fault you wouldn't deal with it. Nope, not so much.
What is his issue??? Why is he harrassing you so much?? Wasn't HE the one that decided not to be in his son's life? I really don't get it.
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Post by tellit on Jul 8, 2008 13:38:49 GMT -5
I think her BD is unhappy with himself. I recall that he is disabled now due to his car accident. He probably feels powerless and is trying to regain some power by sending sick text messages.
He is miserable and misery loves company. That is why I suggest that she not even address the negative text messages. She should just try to steer him back in the direction of his child and refuse to play into his sick game. Youknowwhat, is your BD back at work now or is he unable to work?
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Post by ziar777 on Jul 8, 2008 14:46:04 GMT -5
I am new at this chat line for BMD....but I have a situation myself....my husband's ex calls sometime and leaves nasty curse words and low down demeaning words about him on his voice mail....she always wants to take him to court and she is always saying something sly about us....it has been 4 years that I have been putting up with this mess....Finally I just had my sister and a couple of friends to step in and curse her out and threaten her....I have never done this before...and for some strange reason I can't wait to hear how they wooped that trick.....
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Post by gemmani on Jul 9, 2008 10:50:29 GMT -5
IGNORE THEM!! Let them say all they want to your voicemail. Don't answer their calls, ignore their little sly comments. It lets them know you're above that petty mess.
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Post by angelnmo on Jul 9, 2008 22:19:39 GMT -5
I would just ignore him. He sounds like a spoiled little boy who didn't get his way. Just like a little boy, he will take negative attention over no attention at all. Give him no attention. A ship without wind in its sails can go nowhere!! If you don't provide the wind, his childish antics will go nowhere!!
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