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Post by ty1981 on Jul 10, 2008 19:17:34 GMT -5
BM is at it again. My grandmother died two weeks ago(I was raised by her), next week, my fiancee father dies. You would think that BM would lay off but no she calls his mom and says kids can't come to the funeral if I'm there, .....what is her problem. His mom cried for hours with me hugging her. Where does she get off...I moved in with his mom the last weeks of his dad's life to help her out. I brought his dad food, drink, changed his clothes, wiped his bottom(he had bladder cancer, and had no control over that)....I spent his last day alive with him, just me and him. He called me daughter. She wouldn't even bring the kids to see him because I was there. Now i'm supposed to let my fiancee and his mom go thru a funeral without my support.The pregnant dog has lost her mind and this is where I have to put my foot down. His mom says she needs me there and guess what i will be there for her as long as she needs me. BM needs to realize I am here and not going anywhere. Sorry guys, just had to rant for a few minutes.
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Post by gemmani on Jul 11, 2008 10:31:50 GMT -5
Everything Tellit said, plus it sounds like you had your own relationship with your fiance's dad. YOU have every right to be there. God don't like ugly, and that's about as ugly as they come. She can't put aside her feelings for ONE DAY? ? Well, looks like she'll have to get over that. You better be there!
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Post by ty1981 on Jul 14, 2008 20:06:21 GMT -5
BM alert......she just is so stupid...got mad at funeral cause I sat by MY FIANCEE......but for his mom's sake at least she came......thought she did hit her daughter for talking to me.
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Post by youknowwhatitis on Jul 15, 2008 11:46:46 GMT -5
BM is obviously emotionally distressed. Her emotions are controlling her decision making not her head. Her emotions are ruling not common sense. Women are emotional some people do get upset when other people move on with their lives. Not allowing the children to come to the funeral is stupid...but in her mind it's emotional payback to you. She is obviously offended by something. But you can't let other people's negative feelings determine how you think and behave. Do what you have to do and don't respond to her craziness with more craziness. Somebody has to be the rational one. If the kids don't come....charge it to the game.
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Post by jaylady999 on Jul 17, 2008 10:54:22 GMT -5
BM is obviously emotionally distressed. Her emotions are controlling her decision making not her head. Her emotions are ruling not common sense. Women are emotional some people do get upset when other people move on with their lives. Not allowing the children to come to the funeral is stupid...but in her mind it's emotional payback to you. She is obviously offended by something. But you can't let other people's negative feelings determine how you think and behave. Do what you have to do and don't respond to her craziness with more craziness. Somebody has to be the rational one. If the kids don't come....charge it to the game. amen amen and amen! feeding into this type of negative behavior will only encourage further negative nonsense by this BM. had you backed down and not gone to the funeral, this would have sent her the messaage that she actually has control over and can dictate what you do and where you go. and we all know that this is not true. so i am so glad you went. if she wants to be bitter, allow her to be bitter ALONE. while she is trying to hurt your fiance by trying to get back at him for actually moving on with his life, she is in deed hurting her child(ren) as well. That is the greatest tradgedy of all. Pray for her and keep it moving. You keep doing you and being a good woman and soon to be wife for your man. You seem like you are already off to a good start at not playing into her antics. she aint runnin nothing and eventually, by you not responding to her garbage, she will realize this and hopefully at some point go and crawl back into her hole.
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