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Post by saj2777 on Jul 12, 2008 13:14:22 GMT -5
What's up fam?! A month or so ago (before my precious baby girl was born) I did a post on how one of my DH's BM's was threatening child support, etc. Well, how about this young lady (not really the terms I'd like to use) was lying the whole time. Here's what happened: She kept saying that she had filed papers for CS, yada yada. Then she up and told my DH that he and her had some court appearances coming up...needless to say, we never got a summons, phone call, letter, anything to back up her story. The last court date she gave was earlier this month, we didn't get any notice so we never went to court...so then she tells him, "well, since you didn't show up to court you now have a warrant for your arrest." BM doesn't know that we found out from the guy who issues the warrants in our area that my DH does not have a warrant for ANYTHING! For months, she's been trying to play us and ruin the arrival of our new daughter with this BS............I know there are BM's on this site, so I'm trying to be respectful...but this one just takes the cake. This girl is really psycho. Who goes through all of that trouble just to worry someone else?  ?!!!!!!!! |
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Post by sbimiss on Jul 12, 2008 14:43:45 GMT -5
This is so typical of some BMs. I've said it many times before...I don't think I will ever understand how a woman can stoop so low. Where is all of their dignity and pride?? I just think that desperate people do desperate things. I've learned that sometimes women who are in this situation will say and do things without thinking of how ridiculous they have made themselves look or will look shortly after their crazy act. BM#1 has said and done this quite a few times to me. Each and everytime I spoke with her, she somehow brought the conversation to be about my bf. Her statements were completely off subject because I would be speaking about where our concerns should be which is about her daughter. Who gives if the 4 of us don't like eachother??? She just continued to slur with lies. I must admit that deep down inside it crossed my mind that my bf could be lying to me but, that's only natural and besides who is more likely to lie. You have to expect this from people who are desperate to gain. At the end of the day, you get what you give. Everyone gets what they give in any relationship. Her words should no longer hold any value. She has proved that to you.
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Post by saj2777 on Jul 12, 2008 15:45:14 GMT -5
You're right miss....what she says means nothing. I've known since the beginning that she was a liar....its funny how people constantly remind you of who or what they are....this is why i never took the time to have some type of rapport with her.....frankly, i don't have time or the patience to talk to you if i have got to fish through everything you say to find the truth.  |
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Post by youknowwhatitis on Jul 12, 2008 18:09:30 GMT -5
From my BM perspective, she is obviously upset that he is beginning a new life with a new wife and child. She is obviously insecure and want's to make you feel as insecure as she feels. No it is not right and I do not condone her behavior but watch her....she definitely has the green eyed monster and she just may file cs or attempt something else. She obviously resents the fact that BD has moved on and found someone she loves.
Don't let the fact that you are the new boo go to your head and resort to classless BM bashing in that case you are stooping to her level. But keep your eyes on her and by all means protect your daughter and yourself because you may be dealing with a loon. And there is no telling how far jealousy....in this case I believe it is jealousy....will make this woman go.
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Post by im2grown4this on Aug 5, 2008 20:58:26 GMT -5
I know what you are dealing with. Some women just have no morals, dignity or self respect. They have no sense of pride. They realize how dumb they look and they still continue to act out. They are refusing to accept the things they cannot change. They can't change that they have lost the BD and that BD has moved on. You don't realize what you have until it's gone!
The BM I am dealing with has put herself out there numerous times. She took my fiance to CS and she got her $800/mo for their 6yr old daughter. She is still trying to make him come back to her. She admitted that the only reason she took him to court was to "make him snap out of it and come home" Then she proceeded to tell him(after he reminded her that we will be married soon and we will be living together) that she "knows" he really doesn't want to do that and that he's just trying to save money by moving in together. So, he could "come and stay with her to save money and still have his relationship" Do you see how stupid she makes herself look? I'm just saying I feel you.
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Post by gemmani on Aug 6, 2008 10:25:32 GMT -5
Omg, that "make him snap out of it and come home" is exactly what our BM was hoping when she filed for that ridiculous raise in CS. She told my fiance that if he would just stop all the nonsense and come home, all of the legal stuff can go away. (My fiance chose that time to tell her we're getting married......ouch.) She alternates between leaving crying voicemails on his phone to screaming at him and having her family members leave nasty messages.
About 3-4 months into our relationship, she told my fiance that I punched the oldest child in the face and through her against the wall. She said she was warning him about me. She had her father, uncle and cousin step to my fiance to tell him to keep me away from the kids. He refused to do that, instead he stuck up for me. She accused him of putting me in front of the kids and kept them away for a month. (She eventually gave that up, b/c she doesn't like having her weekends ruined by her own kids).
What's up with these females "knowing" that the man doesn't really want to be with us? Is that something they tell themselves to make them feel better? What's the point of that, BD STILL isn't with them anyway. Get off it.
My skids, God bless them, they see their mom for who she is. They, especially the oldest one, sees the difference between our relationship, and BD/BM's old relationship. They see how mommy behaves versus how we behave. She gets mad at them every week when they go back to her house b/c they talk about what they notice. That's we start getting angry text messages about us "poisoning their minds" and how I should stay away from her kids. The kids tell me the same thing, but they also say how they don't want me to stay away. Every week, same story.
At least the kids don't know what we think about BM. With each story, we just give the kids some excuse as to why BM acts the way she does. Running out of excuses, though.
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