Post by jaylady999 on Jul 17, 2008 12:53:09 GMT -5
Hey people. I just came across this website in an effort to gain more insight to the phenomenon that is the BM drama that anyone with a boyfriend/husband/fiance who has children has gone through in one way or another. I am writing a book and dealing with baby mama drama is one of the chapters in my book. I am completely astounded at how most of your stories mirror what I've been through over the last 7 years with my now husbands BM. I only wish I had found this site when I was in the thick of the drama. It would have really helped me get through it a lot better. I've prayed a lot over the last 7 years and the drama was really horrible in the beginning all the way up until about the last year or so maybe. She has FINALLY come around. Dont get me wrong, I've never particularly cared one way or another if she accepted me. My only concern was her blocking my husband building a relationship with his children, which he has successfully done and continues to do so until this day. But I will admit the fact that we've now graduated(me and her) to a point where we could at least be civil makes life a lot more simpler for all parties involved. Anyway, I am also a local poet who does open mic poetry all over my city and I wrote a poem awhile ago that I just thought I would share here. Feel free to leave your thoughts and feedback. I know it will hit close to home for a lot of you ladies dealing with this drama right now.
I am not your enemy
Now I know we aint the best of friends, and we shouldn’t be
But how long you gone keep rollin your eyes at me
Everytime you see me just becuz its me he’s with
It aint like you brand new to this
By now I thought you would be through with this
See me and he, we've been together for many years
And girlfriend, despite all your greatest fears
He married me.
And when he married me, I married your kids
Yes, with these two beautiful children of his
I have fallen in love.
Yet you continue to be smug
And mean mug me every chance you get
Like its my fault that the two of you split
Your anger is so misdirected, your spirit is so negatively infected
And where, when it comes to me you will stand always corrected
Is that I will not apologize for loving on this man
Because what you really need to understand
Is that in order to have gotten this ring on your left hand
It took much more than just havin his babies
And I’m wonderin if just maybe you truly cant see
That all the energy you waste on despising me
Could so easily be used more productively
When all those times you felt your baby daddy on the attack
More times than not, I had your back
Cuz see I am a woman before I am anything else
And I got a baby daddy too, so I know how you felt
It matters not that me and you don’t get along
If my husband was wrong, hell I said he was wrong
See just like you boo
I acknowledge the bond that you and he share
But just like you too, I aint goin nowhere
So if we both put our personal feelings aside and respect
The position we each hold in his life and digest
The fact that if you stay in your place, I will surely stay in mine
And what you'll find if you ever want to try get out of line
Is that the wife pulls rank on baby mama each and everytime
Your feelings for me are completely irrelevent
Your children have genuine love for me
And that’s what heaven sent
I know we’ll never be the best of friends, and we shouldn’t be
But I am certainly not your enemy
jny copyright 02/08
I am not your enemy
Now I know we aint the best of friends, and we shouldn’t be
But how long you gone keep rollin your eyes at me
Everytime you see me just becuz its me he’s with
It aint like you brand new to this
By now I thought you would be through with this
See me and he, we've been together for many years
And girlfriend, despite all your greatest fears
He married me.
And when he married me, I married your kids
Yes, with these two beautiful children of his
I have fallen in love.
Yet you continue to be smug
And mean mug me every chance you get
Like its my fault that the two of you split
Your anger is so misdirected, your spirit is so negatively infected
And where, when it comes to me you will stand always corrected
Is that I will not apologize for loving on this man
Because what you really need to understand
Is that in order to have gotten this ring on your left hand
It took much more than just havin his babies
And I’m wonderin if just maybe you truly cant see
That all the energy you waste on despising me
Could so easily be used more productively
When all those times you felt your baby daddy on the attack
More times than not, I had your back
Cuz see I am a woman before I am anything else
And I got a baby daddy too, so I know how you felt
It matters not that me and you don’t get along
If my husband was wrong, hell I said he was wrong
See just like you boo
I acknowledge the bond that you and he share
But just like you too, I aint goin nowhere
So if we both put our personal feelings aside and respect
The position we each hold in his life and digest
The fact that if you stay in your place, I will surely stay in mine
And what you'll find if you ever want to try get out of line
Is that the wife pulls rank on baby mama each and everytime
Your feelings for me are completely irrelevent
Your children have genuine love for me
And that’s what heaven sent
I know we’ll never be the best of friends, and we shouldn’t be
But I am certainly not your enemy
jny copyright 02/08