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Post by jaylady999 on Jul 17, 2008 17:13:32 GMT -5
I might be in the minority on this one, but we have a home phone and hubby and I both have our own cellphones and I actually perfer his BM to call him on his cell. I dont want the broad calling my house. Their children are 8 and 10 y/o so she really has not much of a reason to be calling him too much. They have a schedule worked out with visitation and child support. But either way, I trust my husband enough to know that he will not have inappropriate conversations with her. I also call my BD on his cell and thats mainly because he is not home more than he is. Plus when I call my BD for something, I perfer to speak with him as opposed to his girlfriend who has obvious issues with me as his BM. Is any of this out of insecurity on your part? I am just wanting to get a little more of your insight on this issue.
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Post by jaylady999 on Jul 18, 2008 10:07:41 GMT -5
um wow. yeah she is VERY scandalous. that is really a trip and now i do understand the source of your feeling for why you dont want her calling your husbands cell. i dont know what to say. thats a trip.
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Post by gemmani on Jul 18, 2008 10:54:58 GMT -5
My fiance refuses to speak with her. He will only text her. When she calls, it goes to voicemail. She doesn't deserve anymore than that. Tries to cause too much trouble. So anything she says, we have a written record of. She wouldn't DARE call our home phone. First off, she doesn't have the number. Secondly, she can't pretend I don't exist if I'm the one answering the phone. Makes me a bit too real for her.....idiot.
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Post by sbimiss on Jul 18, 2008 12:00:12 GMT -5
I'm still fairly new to this board and I still can't get over how many of the issues others deal with are in similarity. I had many issues with the BM calling the cell for about a year before my bf changed the number. Our home number she has never had. I don't fully understand what she was trying to accomplish but whenever she had her daughter on her weekend(child lives w/ grandmother...BM's mother)she would call the phone repeatedly for about an hour. The child would speak maybe once or twice and this was always around 12:30 a.m and with a private number. Read the child a d*mn bedtime story for pete's sake!!! When my bf confronted her about it. She replied this was his daughter calling. No 3yr. old is going to call back to back for an hour and not a say a word. Then there were the times that she would call to ask for things the child needed. She never did this before because he always communicated with BM's mother. Though it was rare, the few times that I can count she called blocking her number. Of course I answered each time. She always had a smart remark..I laughed each time and of course this upset her. We would get into it each of the times. Then finally, we found a private investigator that could trace the calls. I knew it was her but needed the proof to confront her. So, I received the results and when she did it again I called her right back. We got into this long argument. She continued to rave and rant with lies about what I know she didn't have with my bf & about how she was in this relationship with him...gosh it makes me sick just thinking of it. My bf listened the whole time as she made a fool of herself. He even attempted to correct her but, how can you correct someone that was so adamant about telling flat out lies even in front of him. He felt helpless. She obviously did not know our history so I knew she was boldly lying. I continually tried to bring the convo. back to the matter at hand. That her child doesn't need any of us fighting. I kept saying stop what you're doing and be happy with the life you lead. I was responded to with nothing but lies. She was saying things that were impossible and that I knew def. were lies. I felt it was a personal attack. Well, long story short....since then we have not given her the number. This was almost a year ago. He refuses to communicate with her and only speaks to her mother, which is the primary caretaker of the child anyway. I feel that if she abused that right, what makes us think she won't do it again? Since then, she has not displayed any sort of respect for me or my bf. No way is he allowing that again and neither am I. You did the right thing.
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Post by memyslfni on Jul 20, 2008 9:55:26 GMT -5
As I've been reading its funny how bm tries to block out the fact the dh has moved on. And most times dh tries to avoid telling bm more than she needs to know about us because its really none of her business unless she decides to stop shortchanging her kids a let their father take on his responsibilities, silly girl its going on 4 years. I guess she's waiting for our separation....  I recently tried to give my bm the benefit of the doubt by giving her the opportunity to act like a grown woman because I know most times there are two sides to a story. So I tm'd her letting her know that I am a grown woman and if she felt like she needed to speak with me before her kids could come around that I had no problem with it. Well before we could get too far into the conversation she decides to call dh on it (just like a silly lil girl) unable to hold her own. She proved herself to be the liar that I thought her to be as she acted like she didnt know dh lived with me, can we say drama queen. Stupid fool I saved those tm's for dh to see what a fool she still is (not that he didnt already know) and how she made him seem like the liar. He had just recently mentioned that they respected the fact that the other had moved on, NOT. So my MO was to shed some light on the fact that she was acting like she grew up, in all actuallity she was just trying to get on his good side (women know women). Like tellit had mentioned, her MO was to devide and conquer. From what dh said she called him asking him why is your gf calling me...She really didnt have much to say to me, I think she was still shocked at the fact that it was me on the other end. Its hard to avoid the truth when It slaps you in the face.  LOL, Ok ya'll I got to go....tried to keep it short and to the point....had to get that off my chest and I know some dont agree with the contacting of bm's but I had to do my own lil research. |
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Post by gemmani on Jul 21, 2008 10:32:30 GMT -5
BMs family has joined in on the antics now. Her sister was texting my fiance, cursing him out for not taking care of his "responsibility". ( ?) He pays BM on time every week. He takes them every weekend. She won't inform him of any school activities. She says the week is "her time". So wtf does this broad and her family want? APPARENTLY being responsible is being in a relationship with BM. His "irresponsibilty" is the fact that he's with me. Hmm. SO now its ok for her to have her family call him?? I'm telling y'all, if this keeps up, a restraining order will be in the works. Its been over 2 years, GET OVER IT. MOVE ON and get a life. |
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Post by wowposter on Sept 9, 2008 10:12:22 GMT -5
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I recently tried to give my bm the benefit of the doubt by giving her the opportunity to act like a grown woman because I know most times there are two sides to a story. So I tm'd her letting her know that I am a grown woman and if she felt like she needed to speak with me before her kids could come around that I had no problem with it. Well before we could get too far into the conversation she decides to call dh on it (just like a silly lil girl) unable to hold her own. She proved herself to be the liar that I thought her to be as she acted like she didnt know dh lived with me, can we say drama queen. Stupid fool I saved those tm's for dh to see what a fool she still is (not that he didnt already know) and how she made him seem like the liar. He had just recently mentioned that they respected the fact that the other had moved on, NOT. So my MO was to shed some light on the fact that she was acting like she grew up, in all actuallity she was just trying to get on his good side (women know women). Like tellit had mentioned, her MO was to devide and conquer. From what dh said she called him asking him why is your gf calling me...She really didnt have much to say to me, I think she was still shocked at the fact that it was me on the other end. Its hard to avoid the truth when It slaps you in the face. 
LOL, Ok ya'll I got to go....tried to keep it short and to the point....had to get that off my chest and I know some dont agree with the contacting of bm's but I had to do my own lil research.