Post by gemmani on Jul 18, 2008 11:17:44 GMT -5
I spoke to my oldest skid (6) about being in our wedding. I was telling her what she'd be doing and how she'll have a really fancy dress. She was really excited at first, but then her face dropped. She looked down and said that her mom would be sad about that.
That made me pause. I've been so gun-ho about having them in the wedding, it never occurred to me to ask them. I've been worrying about BM, but I didn't think about how it would make the kids feel. They love me, and they always tell my fiance and I that we love each other, and that "daddy thinks I'm funny". But then there's BM. As most of you know, she's kind of bitter that she didn't get the proposal she wanted. I already know that she talks to people about the situation in front of them, so they must absorb the talk.
I immediately dropped the subject. We continued the day and had a lot of fun. But that stuck with me. I'm going to talk to fiance about that. Maybe it would be too much for them to attend. I don't want them to feel conflicted.
That made me pause. I've been so gun-ho about having them in the wedding, it never occurred to me to ask them. I've been worrying about BM, but I didn't think about how it would make the kids feel. They love me, and they always tell my fiance and I that we love each other, and that "daddy thinks I'm funny". But then there's BM. As most of you know, she's kind of bitter that she didn't get the proposal she wanted. I already know that she talks to people about the situation in front of them, so they must absorb the talk.
I immediately dropped the subject. We continued the day and had a lot of fun. But that stuck with me. I'm going to talk to fiance about that. Maybe it would be too much for them to attend. I don't want them to feel conflicted.