once a cheater always a cheater?

[punkdude85]

Ok so I've been thinking a lot lately. One of the reasons my BM left me was because I cheated on her every chance I got. I'm not proud of it. I was young, stupid, horny, and scarred... I never had like another girlfriend or anything I just hooked up with random girls or girls from work. I guess I was so scarred that I was going to be with only one person the rest of my life to took my very breath away. Everytime I would be with these women intimatly and the act was over I would just leave, make up any excuse just to get the hell out. I would feel so dirty afterwards. But the whole chase and the flirting was what I loved about it. Now I look back and I regret ever doing such things because my BM was the best girlfriend anyone could ever ask for. And I still love her very much. But I know she will never take me back after all those years of abuse and lies and conflict. What I want to know is will I cheat again. Because as man I know very we'll if I have the chance to hook up with some one I will. But its scary to think that I would put someone else through that pain. Is there hope for me?

[tellit]

Nothing "just happens." Cheating is a deliberate act of betrayal. It takes effort to meet a person, pursue or befriend the person, put yourself in a compromising position, take your clothes off, and to trip and fall into (just the right spot) another woman.

My point is that whether or not you will always be a cheater is up to you. It is about exercising SELF CONTROL. If you WANT to be a one man woman, you can be but it is ENTIRELY up to you. Only you can answer your own question. KWIM???

[gemmani]

Tellit's right. Fidelity and commitment are personal choices. So if you feel that you definately will cheat if given the chance, then don't get involved in a committed relationship, period.
If commitment is what you are looking for, then STOP cheating and focus on your woman.

Just do what's best for you.