she is trying to provoke me!

[brauneyez]

Hello out there, I was just reading some of the threads and came across this one. I know a l.little something about provocation. Understanding some of you say, where is it. I have been with a guy going on three years he ended and 10 year one with his ex before we started talking. It was a mutual thing, neither party could do it anymore. They collectively had 4 kids. For those that don't get it one one is his, but even though they are not together they are all his in his eyes. Whatever they need, he makes it happen (sometime with my help) and then some. Tell me why 3 years later I have never laid eyes on the woman and I am still "that pregnant dog" who is not allowed near her kids, or something for her to dangle of his head. Telling him that he won't see HER kids as long as he's with me. She tells the 8yr old all sorts of things about her dad and me to get her to turn against us. Her 16 yr old daughter is so torn because she comes to her like she a girlfriend and vents. I am trying to be the bigger person but there is a piece of me that wants to show out just like she does. She threatens to do things to my car, my house and me. she leaves volatile messages of my home phone for us, for something as simple as doing her daughters hair when she didn't . at first I was understanding and couldn't blame her but now am reaching a point. I feel bad for those kids and I don't see it getting any better anytime soon. She's too focused on my our house and not enough on hers. I really don't care about her hating me but she needs to chill with the dirty stuff. There are so many BDs who move on and leave the mothers n children behind to go for something new. He busts his ass to make her comfortable and do for all of those kids. What next?

[youknowwhatitis]

Sounds like you have a good man....she knows that. She's mad they couldn't make it work and now you have him and it's working. She's jealous plain and simple there is nothing you can do jealousy is HER problem. Remember the law of karma......what you sow you reap she will get her's in time.

[gemmani]

I really appreciate the BM point of view, but c'mon now. It really doesn't sound like you are truly over BD at all. It sounds suspiciously like ..........HATING.