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Post by memyslfni on Jul 26, 2008 11:19:12 GMT -5
it seems that cbm's always talking about how they need help with the kids when they drive her up the wall. and the moment you offer to relieve her, she finds a way out...I recently tried to relieve my dads bm, from her stresses dealing with my younger brother. She's always talking about somebody needs to come get him yet when we exercise that option, she finds an excuse not to let him leave.  It'll take more than a rocket scientist to figure that one out..LOL. ;D |
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Post by angelnmo on Jul 27, 2008 17:28:26 GMT -5
Yeah, my fiance and I had that same problem. The BM would complain about being stressed and her life being over because she is stuck indoors with her baby all the time while he could go out and have fun whenever he wanted too.
That's the problem alot of women don't consider when having a baby for a man that isnt committed to them. You think you are trapping him with the baby, but really, the responsibility of day to day caregiver and 90% of the work falls on the woman's shoulders.
My fiance offered to care for the baby for the weekend so she could go out with her girlfriends and relax for a change. Of course the very next morning she calls screaming and crying about how she needs her baby back and he was wrong for keeping her so long. Mind you, it's 6 in the morning, and we thought it would be nice to let her sleep in and get some much needed rest. He was going to bring the baby back by noon.
She got all hysterical and claimed that he was trying to kidnap her baby and to bring the baby back immediately! I guess no good deed goes unpunished.
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Post by tellit on Jul 27, 2008 20:57:59 GMT -5
Heck, I complain about being with the kids too while DH gets to watch TV, sleep, and chill out. My kids come to me for EVERYTHING. And, I am married (oops, dirty word) to him. But, I TAKE my time. I tell DH, "bye bye" and I do what I have to do. As women, I think that we naturally spend more parenting time with the children. Single parents do have it harder but if the other parent (BD) is willing to spend time with the kids, then let them. The BM should go get her hair done. Get a manicure, a massage, go shopping, on a date, or something. Use the other parent to help with the kids instead of trying to CONTROL the other parent as though he is a kid.
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It'll take more than a rocket scientist to figure that one out..LOL. ;D