Post by amillmack on Aug 6, 2008 8:53:45 GMT -5
I am a little confused. My live-in boyfriend has yet to tell his family that I'm pregnant and his excuse is that he doesn't want CBM to find out. This is my first baby and I should be excited but I feel like he's ashamed of the baby and it makes me not want to be pregnant at all.
The back story is this:
My boyfriend and I started dating two months after he broke it off with CBM. She called crying saying she was pregnant and he was the father. He refused to go back to her, but told her he would be there for the child if it was his. During this time, he only talked to her once a day if that and refused to have anything to do with her.
The baby was born in February and he wanted to get a paternity test, so he went to the hospital. The paternity test came back and the little boy was his, so he did what he was supposed to and started buying clothes, diapers, etc. Then she started her crazy b.s., telling him that if he was going to be with me that he would never see his son and all this other crap. So in order to spend time with the baby, he had to also spend time with her (which I put my foot down and said over my dead body and told her the same thing). By late April, early May when she realized that he wasn't going anywhere, because he and I got a new place, she filed for CS. I told him to get a visitation order, which he refused because he doesn't want the government all in his business (which is a bunch of b.s. - he got in trouble with the law when he was younger and is paranoid).
In early June, I found out I was 4 weeks pregnant, which was unexpected since we were very careful, but I guess not careful enough. I have told my whole family and even have gotten lots of baby stuff already and he has yet to tell his family for fear that they will tell CBM. My response is: Who cares what she thinks? So this is all making me very suspicious about what's really going on. Am I right to feel this way or is it just my pregnancy hormones working in overdrive?
The back story is this:
My boyfriend and I started dating two months after he broke it off with CBM. She called crying saying she was pregnant and he was the father. He refused to go back to her, but told her he would be there for the child if it was his. During this time, he only talked to her once a day if that and refused to have anything to do with her.
The baby was born in February and he wanted to get a paternity test, so he went to the hospital. The paternity test came back and the little boy was his, so he did what he was supposed to and started buying clothes, diapers, etc. Then she started her crazy b.s., telling him that if he was going to be with me that he would never see his son and all this other crap. So in order to spend time with the baby, he had to also spend time with her (which I put my foot down and said over my dead body and told her the same thing). By late April, early May when she realized that he wasn't going anywhere, because he and I got a new place, she filed for CS. I told him to get a visitation order, which he refused because he doesn't want the government all in his business (which is a bunch of b.s. - he got in trouble with the law when he was younger and is paranoid).
In early June, I found out I was 4 weeks pregnant, which was unexpected since we were very careful, but I guess not careful enough. I have told my whole family and even have gotten lots of baby stuff already and he has yet to tell his family for fear that they will tell CBM. My response is: Who cares what she thinks? So this is all making me very suspicious about what's really going on. Am I right to feel this way or is it just my pregnancy hormones working in overdrive?
