Post by daddyinpdx on Aug 22, 2008 1:52:17 GMT -5
I'm here to game everyone on this board about Parental Alienation Syndrome (caucasion)/ Baby Momma/Daddy Drama (Afro American) version.
I can only speak about Baby Momma Drama, because I've been in training for 15 plus years. Folks, this stuff is not for the weak man at heart. It's like walking on hyperdermic needles in no shoes.
First and foremost, all men have a responsibility to care for, support, sustain, protect, correct, and guide their child/children to their God given destiny's with supreme love.
The objective of the "bitter" Baby moma is to sabatoge the mans position and parental relationship between the father and his child. The statistics are staggering when 70% women are without male presence and guidance.
And we wonder why the gang violence and prison industrial complex is a Billion Dollar monstrosity.
Men when you feel that your relationship with your ex is irritrivably broken, you MUST do the following only if there is DRAMA such as:
1. BM is blocking acess to child via phone calls and visits.
2. BM is hurriedly in another relationship and forcing the child to call another unwedded male "daddy"
3. BM is putting a full court press on you for child support in te courts.
4. Repeadly calling and cursing you out to cause havoc.
5. Badmouthing you to your child and inner circle.
Note: if you are experiencing any of these signs, you MUST take serious action "wisely"
Do the following and you will put the BM vampire in the coffin with the quickness:
1. Be extremely nice to your BM. Listen to ole school,"its better to kill flies with honey, than with Bullnuts.
2. Pay childsupport with "Postal Money Orders Only"! Pay it even if you have not been served. If you don;t have a job, send at least $20.00 or a letter via UPS stating that you are looking for work to handle your responsibilities.
Note: Make a copy of this letter and all mailed money orders and mail them to yourself in the US Postal mail. This always has a date that can be used in court.
3. Always send a letter to your ex 1 week before visitation. Don;t say anything deragatory to her in the letter. If you do, this will be grounds for a restraining order in the future.
Note: Your paper trail will also defend you in her malicious attempts to derail your character. The judge will become your ally because you are 1 in a million that's on your game and men/women judges applaud that immediately.
4. Never tell your ex- what you are doing!!!! Let your next move be your best move. The more successful you become, the more venom she will begin to show.
5. Never talk around your children, because they eventually become spies for your ex. No pun intended, but all women have grand theft game to persuade and influence. That's how we got caught up in the first place.
6. Start studying Family law for your state. Get familiar with all types of cases similar to your own scenario. Learn the lingo, i.e ex parte motion, visitation, joint legal custody, etc.
Note: Learn the law before you call an attorney. Go to childcustody.org
7. Try your best to be cordial to your ex. It's way cheaper to curb the drama by practicing active listening. This shows your ex that you car.
8. Never have sex with your ex woman. This will only blow up in your face. If she still flirts with you lay her down slow and compliment her on her mother hood skills and pick your words wisely.
9. Do show your relationship hand until you are both financially and legaly ready to establish your parental rights. If you do this before, the game will heighten to new heights. As your BM will move, change her numbers, say you are harrasing her, and put in a restraining order.
Note: HELL Hath no furry like a woman scorned. Even God loves us enough to lace our shoes to "bitter" womans blues.
10. Last, put on the full court press and be a father your child. Pray that God gives you wisdom, class, and the tenacity to become a fixture in your childs life.
This will become your life's most challenging work. Take it from me (5 lawyers) and won custody. This is $30,000 advice from someone who fought for custody from 3,000 mile away. I was paying $1,100.00 per month.
I continued to put my frustrations in both my strategy to thwart the BM drama and to become sucessful for the greater good of my children.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!! DO YOU AND YOU WILL SUCCEED!!!!!!
I can only speak about Baby Momma Drama, because I've been in training for 15 plus years. Folks, this stuff is not for the weak man at heart. It's like walking on hyperdermic needles in no shoes.
First and foremost, all men have a responsibility to care for, support, sustain, protect, correct, and guide their child/children to their God given destiny's with supreme love.
The objective of the "bitter" Baby moma is to sabatoge the mans position and parental relationship between the father and his child. The statistics are staggering when 70% women are without male presence and guidance.
And we wonder why the gang violence and prison industrial complex is a Billion Dollar monstrosity.
Men when you feel that your relationship with your ex is irritrivably broken, you MUST do the following only if there is DRAMA such as:
1. BM is blocking acess to child via phone calls and visits.
2. BM is hurriedly in another relationship and forcing the child to call another unwedded male "daddy"
3. BM is putting a full court press on you for child support in te courts.
4. Repeadly calling and cursing you out to cause havoc.
5. Badmouthing you to your child and inner circle.
Note: if you are experiencing any of these signs, you MUST take serious action "wisely"
Do the following and you will put the BM vampire in the coffin with the quickness:
1. Be extremely nice to your BM. Listen to ole school,"its better to kill flies with honey, than with Bullnuts.
2. Pay childsupport with "Postal Money Orders Only"! Pay it even if you have not been served. If you don;t have a job, send at least $20.00 or a letter via UPS stating that you are looking for work to handle your responsibilities.
Note: Make a copy of this letter and all mailed money orders and mail them to yourself in the US Postal mail. This always has a date that can be used in court.
3. Always send a letter to your ex 1 week before visitation. Don;t say anything deragatory to her in the letter. If you do, this will be grounds for a restraining order in the future.
Note: Your paper trail will also defend you in her malicious attempts to derail your character. The judge will become your ally because you are 1 in a million that's on your game and men/women judges applaud that immediately.
4. Never tell your ex- what you are doing!!!! Let your next move be your best move. The more successful you become, the more venom she will begin to show.
5. Never talk around your children, because they eventually become spies for your ex. No pun intended, but all women have grand theft game to persuade and influence. That's how we got caught up in the first place.
6. Start studying Family law for your state. Get familiar with all types of cases similar to your own scenario. Learn the lingo, i.e ex parte motion, visitation, joint legal custody, etc.
Note: Learn the law before you call an attorney. Go to childcustody.org
7. Try your best to be cordial to your ex. It's way cheaper to curb the drama by practicing active listening. This shows your ex that you car.
8. Never have sex with your ex woman. This will only blow up in your face. If she still flirts with you lay her down slow and compliment her on her mother hood skills and pick your words wisely.
9. Do show your relationship hand until you are both financially and legaly ready to establish your parental rights. If you do this before, the game will heighten to new heights. As your BM will move, change her numbers, say you are harrasing her, and put in a restraining order.
Note: HELL Hath no furry like a woman scorned. Even God loves us enough to lace our shoes to "bitter" womans blues.
10. Last, put on the full court press and be a father your child. Pray that God gives you wisdom, class, and the tenacity to become a fixture in your childs life.
This will become your life's most challenging work. Take it from me (5 lawyers) and won custody. This is $30,000 advice from someone who fought for custody from 3,000 mile away. I was paying $1,100.00 per month.
I continued to put my frustrations in both my strategy to thwart the BM drama and to become sucessful for the greater good of my children.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!! DO YOU AND YOU WILL SUCCEED!!!!!!
