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Post by wbmama on Apr 4, 2008 20:55:25 GMT -5
Today my lovely BM threw a fit, cussed out my husband, sent me 4 emails with things like "screw you" and kept saying "Don't respond to this - I will not receive any emails from you" BLAH BLAH BLAH....
It was like a kid on a playground running up to me calling me names, sticking their tongue out, and running away as fast as possible so I couldn't retaliate....
It almost makes me laugh....what an idiot! She's such a coward.
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Post by lovejones08 on Apr 4, 2008 22:32:17 GMT -5
All BMs (mother of a child is different from a BM) are cowardly and childish individuals. Girl, she cannot help herself! LOL!!! She's running out of things to do!!! LOL!! Sometimes I don't know whether to laugh, feel sorry for her, or pray for her, so I choose to do all three.
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Post by Keia on Apr 6, 2008 14:30:35 GMT -5
Obviously this woman knows she is getting to you and your husband. She will always be a part of his life because she is the mother of his child. That you must accept once and for all. You cannot separate a mother from a child so STOP trying. Every woman is going to be protective of her own child. So instead of getting involved with it because that is what your doing to protect your own interest with your husband. STAY out of it. The fact that your involved is what's causing so much drama. Keep your nose out of their business. Why is she e mailing you. She should not be talking to anybody but your husband. Next time she e mails you tell her to email your husband because that's the father of her child not you. You are sending the message that you are not worried about her (Which you are) and that you are not intimidated by her relationship with your husband. When she realizes she can't upset you and that you are secure in your relationship it WILL lose it's appeal and she will calm down and be more agreeable. ProbABLy to get close to your husband. And you to can play her b/cuz you know neither one of you can stand her and she doesn't have a chance in hell. The best thing as a BM I can tell you to do is to stay out it. It's the best way to keep the peace.
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Post by downazzchick on Apr 6, 2008 22:57:19 GMT -5
Girl, this is pitiful. This poor girl does not have a life. She is obviously envious of you and your husband's relationship. What exactly do they argue about? I understand a mother being protective over her children, but to carry on in this childish manner does not solve the problems she has with your husband.
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Post by angelnmo on Apr 6, 2008 23:07:33 GMT -5
I'm not sure if I agree with one of the posts. This is your husband - not just a boyfriend, and thus, his child is your business. His child is your stepchild, and you have a responsibility in helping co-parent with your HUSBAND. As far as the baby's mother, yes, all mothers are protective of their children. But just as you should respect her as a mother, she should also respect you as her baby's father's WIFE!
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Post by lovejones08 on Apr 10, 2008 12:18:42 GMT -5
Amen, angelnmo. If he is her husband than it is very much her business and staying out of it is really not an option in a marriage because your marriage is a part, I do understand that that comment was made by a BM is what I think she described herself as and so we will have different opinions on this matter; however, regardless of another woman having a baby by a man there is a big difference between a BM and a mother of a child.
Of course a MOTHER will take care of her responsibilities regardless to whether the father is involved or not. She would not be concerned with her ex if he is happy, taking good care of his kids, and the new woman has respect for her and the child/children; that type of woman is rare, but they are out there. Unfortunately, it is more of the men doing the right thing getting all the hell and the woman will the just brush the deadbeat dad off and say I don't need him anyway he can go on. If you want to raise hell you would be more justified doing it with the deadbeat not the man that wants to be a father and not your man.
Now if the man is a BD and not being a father than instead of raising hell go through to proper channels of handling your business. STOP BEING RIDICULOUS with him feeding into the game. There is never an excuse for acting like a plum fool and doing outlandish things that should have stayed in highschool just because you're the mother of his child, that's a huge negative and it makes you look silly.
If people would mature with their age and stop sleeping with people who you really don't see a forever future with and stop settling for less just because they've been together for 8 yrs or however long and made some babies, highschool love, and comfortable but not happy/fully satisfied; we would have less of these situations. If a woman wants to act silly because her ex is with another woman and doing nonsensical things just to make hell, it's the next woman's right to be upset about it especially if it goes on for years and years and the BM type of woman will keep on being that type regardless to whether she's getting under a person's skin or not. This type of behavior is her defense mechanism in the situation.
For every woman, this must be said, stop thinking that having a child is an act that deserves an honorary achievement award because it is a privilege and a blessing not something for somehow one to praise a woman about. No one owes you anything, you actually owe that child the best life possible. Always keep in mind that the next woman can have a baby just like you did, so focus on being a good mother and not a BM. If you're not with him anymore then he wasn't yours in the first place and God has something better for your life but you won't receive it until you let go things that shouldn't matter.
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