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Post by doinwatigottado on Oct 2, 2008 16:48:07 GMT -5
As you all know, I've been complaining alot about the lack of boundaries. Well, what do you think about the fact that my husbands BM just bought SS a cell phone.
I know that she got him the phone beause she didn't want us to limit the calling. I guess there is no way out of this. LOL.
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Post by jaylady999 on Oct 2, 2008 17:26:16 GMT -5
My honest opinion is, if she wants to buy her son a celly so she can access him whenever she wants, that is actually not a bad idea. The best thing that ever happened in my life was when I added my stepdaughter onto my cellphone account. Her daddy doesnt even have to deal with their mother now, he calls his daughter's phone when he wants to talk to his kids. Consider that a blessing. She wants to talk to her son, she can call his phone and you and DH wont(or shouldnt even have to deal with her altogether).
When the kids are with us for the weekend, and their mother wants to reach them to check on them or whatever, she calls her daughter's cell and I love it! No more calling hubbys phone asking to speak to the kids and then trying to stike up unnecessary idle conversation with DH in the process and vice versa for when he used to have to call her phone to talk to his daughter.
Girl consider this the silver lining to a very dark cloud. Dont you think? ;D
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Post by doinwatigottado on Oct 2, 2008 19:26:24 GMT -5
Thank ya'll. I needed to hear that there is hope for the future!! LOL.
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Post by jaylady999 on Oct 2, 2008 20:39:21 GMT -5
uh huh girl, this may be a complete blessing in disguise for you! ;D
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Post by Chalan on Oct 3, 2008 7:42:06 GMT -5
I think time will tell. This may be a blessing or a curse! When BM bought a cell phone for her DD, things got a lot worse in my home. DD called her mother a lot. I’m guessing 20 or 30 times in a minute. If she couldn’t reach her she would just keep dialing until she did and become panicky. Then BM starts calling ALL the time only her conversation just didn’t pertain to her daughter. She wanted to know what me and my SO were doing, were we were going. . Then she would follow up with numerous calls to BD about why he did or didn’t do something. We didn’t have this problem before their DD received a cell phone.
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Post by gemmani on Oct 3, 2008 7:46:11 GMT -5
If the phone issue does become a problem, ban it from your home. I say give BM a set time for phone calls. Excessive calling interferes with your DH's visitation time. He has the right to uninterupted time with his son. If she continues over-calling, tell her the phone is not allowed while he is at your home. Your house, your rules.
You need to just stop answering the phone completely. Let her get all worked up, that's HER problem, not YOURS. One phone call a day before bedtime is enough.
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Post by memyslfni on Oct 3, 2008 13:30:14 GMT -5
Doin, I got four words for u...YOUR HOUSE YOUR RULES..put restrictions on that celly when he's in your presence...If she dont like it she needs to keep his phone at home when he comes to visit ya'll...My son doesnt take his phone with him during visits with his father...it stays home with me because if he leaves it there I'd be paying the bill for nothing...HIs dad lives an hour away...
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