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Post by youknowwhatitis on Oct 8, 2008 19:38:06 GMT -5
Simply some people get caught up in their emotions. The older I get and I'm in my 20's too the more I realize how nasty, cruel, and just downright ignorant and jealous some people are. It shouldn't be that way but it is. Just look at how my BD and family did my son and I. But yet I had to grow up, forgive and do what's best for me and my son. I still since animosity from BD............mainly because I don't want him..........and I"ve been successful as as student and a single mom. Something he couldn't do without a kid. But some people take the fact that somebody doesn't want them personal.........and apparently in this case she is. Just pray and understand as much as we don't always want to fight (not physically) mentally, emotionally, spiritually, life is a fight............I am beginning to realize either you fight back with faith and positivity and success or you get beat up. Sometimes people will try to fight you that you're not interested in fighting..........ie the BM but if their trying to fight you I've learned..............you have to fight back. Hope that helps.  |
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Post by gemmani on Oct 9, 2008 7:43:05 GMT -5
Good point Youknow. It's like a strange combo of taking the high road and fighting back. Be firm in setting your boundaries, but don't cause drama. She shows up at the house, calmly tell her that she isn't welcome and close the door. She keeps doing it, call the cops. She calls all the time? Turn the ringer off. Don't respond to her voicemails. If your DH has to talk to her, keep it PROFESSIONAL and BUSINESS LIKE, only address issues concerning the children. If she goes off topic and starts her sh*t, end the conversation immediately and don't respond.
You need to give her the message that while you will not engage in her drama, you also will not tolerate her disrupting your house.
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Post by omg2crazy on Oct 9, 2008 12:10:39 GMT -5
and its still not over. I have a new report daily pretty much. So she calls yesterday and is like just give up your rights and I cant take this blah blah, you dont care about my kids. Then 3 am rolls around and she drunk calls talking about you wanna ignore me and not care about my kids-yours is coming, thats not a threat thats a promise honey! WHEW! I am almost tempted to write her a letter and just let it all out and be like get a life please! I shouldnt though should I? Keep ignoring it or what?
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Post by Chalan on Oct 9, 2008 12:27:26 GMT -5
Ignore her. Don’t respond to her rants but start keeping a journal. Document every thing. If you ever go to court, it will show you are serious and help your case.
I thought you changed your number. How id she get it?
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Post by gemmani on Oct 9, 2008 13:02:23 GMT -5
File a restraining order on this chick. She's definitely getting out of hand.
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Post by omg2crazy on Oct 9, 2008 13:12:55 GMT -5
i did change mine, but she still has his-its his work #. They supply the phone to him for customers but she got the #, he cant change that one. The court said I cannot get a restraining order on her b/c we dont have any relationship. He can but says its not that serious and that he isnt a cop goer. He said we just need to ignore her calls and I am making it a huge deal. I mean please be honest with me girls-AM I making this way bigger then what it is? What would you all do? Just dont even look at his phone, ignore it all together? Am I being too nosey and making it my issue when its not my business? My husband was making me feel like I liek the drama and I keep it let it bother me. I almost feel as if Im the crazy one. I have been going through this with this crazy girl for like 3 yrs on & off and maybe I do take it too far. What is the best way to really get at her? Ignore her? Thats what everyone says. But I do that. she doesnt have anyway of contacting me at all but it gets under my skin that she feels she can all him whining and trying to make him talk to her or care about what she has to say. I dont know. Its making me nuts!
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Post by gemmani on Oct 9, 2008 13:19:23 GMT -5
Ha!! It's HIS fault that this drama is happening in the first place!!!!!!
HE should be doing whatever he needs to do to correct this problem. You, HIS WIFE, should be his first priority. He should not be making you feel this way at all, especially since you forgave him and stayed. He should be kissing your a$$ not making you feel silly because it bothers you.
Especially since the situation occured how it did, he shouldn't be taking her calls unless it has to do with getting the kids or dropping them off. Your DH is the problem here. He should be fixing it.
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