BD and FAM MESS UP

[youknowwhatitis]

Wait a minute..................I was there when they picked up my son..............I specifically told BD's mom to call me when she was on her way back with my son. I wanted them to pick my son up from my granny's that way there is always another person present............as you all can see they are LIARS. Then his mom gonna try to say I told her to call my granny.........who in the hell tells someone to call their granny about their child. She asked for my granny's number. I felt it in my spirit I should'nt have given it to her. So they picked him up from her home when I was there. I just feel that the childishness is ridiculous. But like one of you said...........they are behaving like the past precedent. This is why I did not want to try to establish a relationship between them because I don't have time for stupid sh*t. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to pick up the phone and call and say Keia..........were on our way with the baby. Then I wouldn't have had anything to say about them being late..........because they let me know. If they think they are going to go through a 3rd party............they can kick rocks...........I am much too mature for this situation. If they can't deal with me..............then they aren't ready for a relationship with my son. It's a respect thing. I don't like BD or BD's mom.............didn't necessarily want to call and ask if son was on his way but because it IS MY SON I did what I had to do. And like my sister said, " bottom line is you want a relationship or you don't. If you do you do what needs to be done. They seem to be stuck in some sick vendetta they won't be forefilled because GOD has my back......and we all know I have tried to do right in this situation. A few months ago this would've been unheard of. But they are still trying to do the wrong thing and spite me.

Do ya'll think I should send them a YOU didn't spite me text message and say:

You are still welcome to continue visits with Jay if you would like. However, all communication regarding Jaylin needs to be directed to his mother only. Third parties seemed to create confusion. Let me know if you all would like another visit with him.

***Therefore I'm letting them know that I'm not having the nonsense. I'm putting the ball back in their court so they can't say I stopped them from further visitation and I let them know.....I STILL run the show.

[Chalan]

Take a step back for a minute. I think you probably made yourself clear when they dropped your son off. You don’t need to make it clear to them who you are. They already know. Like I said before there is probably just nervousness on both sides. I’m sure they realize if they piss you off, a relationship with Jaylin will not occur. Why don’t you wait for them to call you and address your concerns then. To send BD’s Mom a text lets her know she got to you and that you are asserting the…I’m his mother card. Vent that here, not to her. Time will show their true motives.

I agree they must respect you but it goes both ways. You have to give to receive. I’m not saying bend over backwards, but just see how things play out. I’m sure you wouldn’t have let Jaylin go with them if you thought he was in harm’s way so give it some time.

I did think about one thing, as far as the allergies, you should send her a list of things he can not have. That way you don’t have to worry. And I’m just going to come out and say it, I think you still have some hostility towards them, that’s ok but you need to keep in check. Is it possible you were looking for a reason for them not to be involved with your son??

[sbimiss]

Yea, I agree here again with Chalan. This situation takes a lot of compromising from both parties. However, I do think that you might not intentionally be looking for a reason for them not to be involved with your son but, it is rather a protective issue with your son. It is completely understandable that you are overprotective and on your toes about who does what with your son so to speak. I'm also pretty sure that they will always do things that are not exactly what you want and vice versus when it comes to your son. That just comes with the territory.

In my opinion, I think you should wait till the next time they call you to voice your concerns. Be cool and collective in the mean time. It will fall into it's rightful place, I'm sure.