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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 21, 2008 11:15:50 GMT -5
I do not have a quick temper, but if BM pushes me to my limit, I will snap on her. I talk to BM like a child & I know that it drives her crazy. I talk to her like a child because she acts as though she is STUPID & it annoys me. What do you do that drives BM crazy (if anything)? I know some do not communicate with BMs at all.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 21, 2008 17:31:43 GMT -5
Our BM is not very bright - I always hit her stupid remarks with super sweet scarsacsm . She gets so pissed.
Of course now, we're not communicating anymore.
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Post by cloudy752001 on Apr 21, 2008 17:37:04 GMT -5
Who has that time on their hands to play BMD games? You seem too interested in the BM and that is what I was talking about in your other post. You are putting too much energy into her. You make it seem as if your upset that your DH had a relationship with her at some point (regardless of what he has told you.)
Either your DH was a creep OR he cared for her enough to sleep with her w/o a condom and make this child. You can get along with her without talking to her. Just let DH and her handle situations with SD. The only time you need to involve yourself is when you suspect iinfidelity or when visitation comes into play and how you want to involve yourself with the visit. Because if you keep putting your energy into playing with your DH's BM, you will see your whole life pass without any significance.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 21, 2008 17:42:50 GMT -5
So, Cloudy what's your story? You've seemed to have changed your tune.
You once said "The myth of "It's none of your business" is becoming tired on this forum. If you are dealing with someone with BM/BD drama, it IS your business! "
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 21, 2008 17:51:07 GMT -5
Cloudy, your opinion of how I spend my time is not important. I asked a question. If you don't want to answer it, keep it moving.
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Post by Keia1 on Apr 21, 2008 19:05:23 GMT -5
I see somebody else shares my opinion of staying out of the BM/BD drama...but I say do it to keep your own sanity...that doesn't mean don't monitor it very closely but don't let anyone know that you're monitoring it but you....You gotta watch your own back.
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Post by cloudy752001 on Apr 21, 2008 19:46:13 GMT -5
I did keep it moving. But I came to this post and saw that you were the author. You just seem to try to spite the BM all of the time. She will always be around and what [glow=red,2,300]"mature adult woman" [/glow]goes around and talks to someone else like a "child?"
She is and always will be a part of your DH life. FACE IT!! I am anti-BMD, but you seem to not like this BM for what? If you know that she may have problem with you, then why do you constantly taunt her? She already knows how to get to you and your DH, right in the POCKETS! And I can tell from all of your post that it is getting to you.
But in all of your spitefulness, did you ever consider the fact that your DH may want to see his child and you may be adding fuel to the fire and that's why you cannot locate your SD? That's why I say you should stay out of it and let him handle it.
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 21, 2008 20:18:20 GMT -5
Again, it is just not that serious. To argue with a complete stranger is just not what I consider fun. You offer no value to my life...But again, thanks for your advice.
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Post by cloudy752001 on Apr 21, 2008 20:27:07 GMT -5
No arguements here... Just opinions.  |
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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 21, 2008 21:10:17 GMT -5
Where did errry body go?
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 21, 2008 21:18:41 GMT -5
Everybody is here...I was waiting for downazz to come on & lovejones. They always have great advice to offer.
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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 21, 2008 21:28:38 GMT -5
tellit gurl its all about speakin yo mind and if what u feel is right, speak on it girlfriend. This is just the net. Think of it as a steamy debate...Besides I think all cloudy is tryin to say is that its the mans responsibilty to take care of that and when us as their women try to make things easier for them, and if your dh stop to think about how u so much involved in and how it stresses you out, he would relieve of that duty of having to send cs payment. I find myself tryin to make it easy for my man on a day to day, but not this day honey, Im on a do it yo self trip. And you know why..
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Post by cloudy752001 on Apr 21, 2008 21:48:55 GMT -5
That is basically ALL that I am trying to say. Sometimes it is just good to step back and let the man deal with it. That's all..
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Post by wbmama on Apr 22, 2008 8:12:53 GMT -5
Sure - letting the man handle it works UNTIL the BM pulls your a** into the drama.
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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 22, 2008 16:01:11 GMT -5
A bm cant pull u into nothin unless u actually want to be involved...And its so strange that I'm starting to notice that when wives/gf's get so much involved it starts to be like AIR. THEY CANT LIVE WITHOUT...Why is this.?
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