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Post by nomoredrama on May 7, 2008 20:44:30 GMT -5
Keia, we "all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God." Your child is here so you must deal with the here and now. God loves you and your child. Although all of my children (even those I miscarried) were conceived during my marriage, I am lying if I said that my DH & I did not knock the boots before we got married. Boy, did we ever!!! Sigh.  I could have been a single parent too. A lot of women could have been easily in your position. I don't think anyone of us on this board looks down on you for being a single mom. Nor do we look down on our DH's or boyfriend's BM for being single parents. Anyone of us could be in that position at any time if BF/DH loses their darned mind. |
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Post by memyslfni on May 7, 2008 20:57:56 GMT -5
Which is going to be my situation if he dont wake the f_zz up and realize what he got. I got studies to worry about let alone having to pay bills, rent, buy food etc..on my own. I can do bad by my da_n self. His poor decisions are startin to hender my focus. I love him but, I need a man to make me feel like a woman, like mary says.
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Post by destini1969 on May 7, 2008 21:59:15 GMT -5
Girl you can feel like a woman by yourself, say hello to m*sturbation!  But really memyselfni, you just have to decide if he's worth it. Has he always been unemployed and down in the dumps? Don't put the man out just because he's not working. Have a sit down, heart to heart talk with him and give him a time frame to snap out of his funk. But be reasonable with your timeframe though, Rome wasn't built in a day. |
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Post by nomoredrama on May 7, 2008 22:23:55 GMT -5
How often is your honey out of work? Is this the first time? Is he looking for work? Is he disabled or depressed? Is his unemployment a pattern? The bible says a man that provideth not for his own is worst than an infidel.
The BM is frustrated just as memyslf is because she has had to support their children solely on her own. A small contribution is better than none...And some BMs feel that the BD has to "pay to play" so to speak. The BM may find it difficult to separate child support from visitation. Has your honey filed his taxes yet? If so, he should give some of that to the BM to help with the expenses of taking care of the child. He should hand over the rest of the taxes to you...Assuming that he is getting a refund.
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Post by wowposter on Sept 8, 2008 9:12:57 GMT -5
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Post by wowposter on Sept 11, 2008 3:17:42 GMT -5
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I could have been a single parent too. A lot of women could have been easily in your position. I don't think anyone of us on this board looks down on you for being a single mom. Nor do we look down on our DH's or boyfriend's BM for being single parents. Anyone of us could be in that position at any time if BF/DH loses their darned mind. 