Let's get to know one another

[nomoredrama]

We have a lot of new members and some old members. Let's get to know each other. Please answer the following questions:

1. Are you a man with Baby Mama Drama (BMD), married, engaged, or dating a man with BMD, or are you a baby mama (single mother)?

2. If married, engaged, or dating man with BMD, how long have you been together?

3. How many children are involved in the drama?

4. What are you hoping to gain from this discussion forum? Why did you join?

5. What do you most want help or advice with?

[nomoredrama]

1. Are you a man with Baby Mama Drama (BMD), married, engaged, or dating a man with BMD, or are you a baby mama (single mother)? Married to man with BMD

2. If married, engaged, or dating man with BMD, how long have you been together? Almost 12 years

3. How many children are involved in the drama? 1 SD - Age 14

4. What are you hoping to gain from this discussion forum? Why did you join? Place to vent or discuss issues that going thru with BM

5. What do you most want help or advice with? Making sense of my frustration

[destini1969]

1. Are you a man with Baby Mama Drama (BMD), married, engaged, or dating a man with BMD, or are you a baby mama (single mother)?
I am a woman dating a man with BMD.

2. If married, engaged, or dating man with BMD, how long have you been together? I've been with my DH for 1 year and 1 month and 4 days.

3. How many children are involved in the drama? There are 2 BMs but one is more bolder than the other.

4. What are you hoping to gain from this discussion forum? Why did you join? To gain a better understanding of the BM actions how I should handle certain situations.

5. What do you most want help or advice with? The impossible, making her GO AWAY!

[jusdntundstn]

1. dating a man with bmd
2. 3 Yrs
3. too many
4. to know I aint the only one
5. gettin him to realize she aint as innocent as she makes herself to be

[destini1969]

Hey jusdntundstn, do you think your DH thinks the BM is not an issue/concern?

[jusdntundstn]

I think he feels they are less my concern and more his...but he fails to realize that what bothers him also bothers me. But when I have issues with my bd he's front row and center...

[ngoodman]

Hey shorty, they ain't your concern. Let your man handle that sh*t on the real!

1. A man with BMD.
2. I have a GF of 6 months that claims she's getting fed up with the drama.
3. I have 2 children, 2 BMs.
4. Looking to see what the fu*k yal be thinking about.
5. Looking to see what the fu*k yal be thinking about.

[jusdntundstn]

Thanks for ur opionion ngood, but If men knew how to handle they sh*t, I wouldnt be to concerned now would I? Take urself for example, U ready to bounce on both gf and bm. I'm assuming U cant handle it...right?

[ngoodman]

Nawl, if yal would stop trying to run and control sh*t all the time you wouldn't have the problems ya do now. My BM and GF are having a t*t fitght trying to see which one is the biggest.

I am tied of b*tches trying to run and control sh*t. If you want to wear a d*ck wear one, but don't start b*tching when you try to step in a man's place. You concerned because that's your makeup, you emotional because that's what you know.

[nomoredrama]

So ngoodman, what would you have your GF do? Why does GF have to have a t*T fight with the BM? What is BM doing that would make GF feel this way? Do you understand why GF feels this way? Maybe you can send your GF to this site. I bet she could tell you straight out why she feels the way she does. Men sometimes stick their heads in the sand when it comes to some crazy BMs. It is almost like a child saying, "if I don't see it, it doesn't exist."
Speaking as the wife of a DH with crazy baby mama syndrome, it does exist. No matter how much DH may want to ignore it, it does not go away. In fact, it is like a cancer....The longer you ignore it, the more it spreads.

[memyslfni]

Sweet , I like that one..bm's are like cancer. I notice that though tellit. They'd rather ignore the bm than face them. And alot of the bm's and bd's are so used to the arguing that it becomes routine and they dont see anything wrong with it. Bd's try to argue bm into changing her immature ways but its useless, a waist of breath and time.

[destini1969]

You can't tame crazy BMs and sometimes the best way to control your situation is to ignore the BM because the drama is never ending. This is working for myself and DH at the present time. Ngoodman it appears as if you're dealing with deeper issues with your GF and BM, are you trying to be with both?

[awsomalx]

May 9, 2008 18:09:11 GMT -5 nomoredrama said:

No matter how much DH may want to ignore it, it does not go away. In fact, it is like a cancer....The longer you ignore it, the more it spreads.

Well in my case, the cancer is not going into remission anytime soon. It's a constant malignant issue and it's appetite to destruct is without bounds.
There is no real reason for me to deal with her since no matter what, she'll continue with her unstable mannerisms. Her blame/anger/rage/vindictiveness is aimed at me one week. The following week I'm absolved of all issues that she thinks exist, as she then aims it all towards my other half.
Her maniacal ways are well documented and for the most part predictable, which makes it easy for me and mine to avoid her. Which in turns, makes for a somewhat peaceful existance (as long as my BM is alive, all you will get is "somewhat").
I say all to this to eradicate the thought of a Man avoiding contact as equal to sticking my head in the sand. I'm not avoiding anything (actually if you only knew, I'm quite confrontational. I'm far from tactful with it, LOL) but stress. There is nothing that will ever be accomplished in dealing with her on any level (trust me, I've tried all you can think of). She's miserable and is only to happy to spread that amongst all who interact with her.

[destini1969]

Awomsalx after reading some of your posts dear, I think it's quite clear that you don't have a problem with CONFRONTATION! )

[angelnmo]

1. Are you a man with Baby Mama Drama (BMD), married, engaged, or dating a man with BMD, or are you a baby mama (single mother)?
Engaged to a man with BMD
2. If married, engaged, or dating man with BMD, how long have you been together?
Together for 9 years and still going strong
3. How many children are involved in the drama?
Only 1, but that's one too many!
4. What are you hoping to gain from this discussion forum? Why did you join?
Some knowledge and insight into what to expect from the BM and different ideas on how to deal with her. Also to talk with ladies who are dealing with the same things I am
5. What do you most want help or advice with?
How to have as little contact with BM as possible, strengthen my bond with my man, and be happy!