For the MEN....What do you think??

[lovejones08]

Men, we have heard many of the women's opinions on BMD, but ultimately this all start with you. What is your outlook on the situatio?

How should your woman cope with your BMD, while attempting to maintain a healthy relationship with you?

What qualities do you seek in a women when you know that you may possible have BMD once you enter a new relationsip?

Men....please don't leave me hanging on this one. I'm sure I'm not the only one that wants to know and it may help some with their issues and topsy turby emotions on this matter.

Often times women tend to get more upset about the BMD than the man does when it is his situation.

[memyslfni]

Lovejones, these guys got to dig deep for this one..Interesting post though...Come on guys dont be shy..help some sista's out here.

[destini1969]

I am really interested to know about this one!

[ngoodman]

I don't think my GF should be involved with my situation with BM. She comes in MY HOUSE trying to run sh*t and gets p*ssed when things don't go the way she likes it. GFs and wives should stay out of it.

My GF and I have been dating about 6 months and she stepped to me talking about how she don't want to be involved with BM and next thing you know she is meeting my BM for lunch. B*tches be tripping about this sh*t, women don't understand how this really effect men.

I got BM b*tching and then my girl b*tching. Ain't no man want to deal with that sh*t! I am about to dismiss them both and disappear!

[nomoredrama]

Okay, what do you men GFs & wives stay out of it. Unlike a GF, there is no MY HOUSE when you are married. It is OUR HOUSE. It is kind of hard to stay out of it because BMs affect DHs or BFs moods. BMs also affect household finances because of child support. And, in most cases, when child comes to visit, it is the girlfriend or wife who is providing most of the care (feeding, cleaning, etc). It is hard to just "stay out of it" when it is in your face and your space.

[haley1]

May 9, 2008 18:17:39 GMT -5 nomoredrama said:

Okay, what do you men GFs & wives stay out of it. Unlike a GF, there is no MY HOUSE when you are married. It is OUR HOUSE. It is kind of hard to stay out of it because BMs affect DHs or BFs moods. BMs also affect household finances because of child support. And, in most cases, when child comes to visit, it is the girlfriend or wife who is providing most of the care (feeding, cleaning, etc). It is hard to just "stay out of it& quot; when it is in your face and your space.

[haley1]

???I have benn with my husband for 5yrs,
We got with each other when BM was pregnant ,I have seen my step son as much as my husband has,she is the worst of all she says she dont want to talk to me about anything because he is daddy and she is mommy but yet Im the 1 that has to pick him up and do all the taking care of him.
Tell me how I dont have a say so in anything?

[haley1]

I have benn with my husband for 5yrs,
We got with each other when BM was pregnant ,I have seen my step son as much as my husband has,she is the worst of all she says she dont want to talk to me about anything because he is daddy and she is mommy but yet Im the 1 that has to pick him up and do all the taking care of him.
Tell me how I dont have a say so in anything?

[BADCHICK]

NGOOD MAN YOU NEED TO CHANGE YOUR NAME SOUND LIKE A DEADBEAT. LOL

[nomoredrama]

Trust me Haley1. Even if BM does talk with you, it will only make situation worse. At first, I did not want to talk with BM. I would not have ANYTHING to do with her. Then I got Saved and decided to open dialogue with BM (since we were both SAVED). BM & DH did not get along very well. They argued about everything. BM called me & asked me if she could strictly deal with me as she & DH did NOT get along. I never told her yes or no but she proceeded to call me concerning SD. I would let DH know that BM called & what she wanted. DH would then speak with her about it. BM started lying about things that I said. DH would get mad with me because BM said "I talked with your wife and asked her and she said you would do it." DH would come home frustrated with me about something or another. He would tell me that BM said we would do this & that. I directed BM right back to DH thereafter.
BM are going to cause drama whether she is talking with you or not. Count you lucky stars that she only wants to deal with DH.

[destini1969]

Not trying to hate on you Ngoodman but you sound very bitter. If you're that unhappy with GF and BM, you're probably better off leaving them both. You've only vested 6 months into the relationship with GF, not sure what the situation is with you and BM, but it sounds like you're trying to have a courtship with both.

[bgoodman ngoodman]

I aint leaving my girl i just get p*ssed cause she be tripping hard. she keep encouraging BM to tell her about the sh*t with me and BM. I plan to wife her one day but I got to get BM where I need her to be and GF aint helping.

I know yal say 6 months is no time but for a man it is. We know what place yal play in our life. I knew BM was a jump off when i met her. should never used condoms she brought.

[Keia1]

AS SAID BEFORE NGOODMAN IS JUST MAD AND BITTER CACUSE WOMEN ARE CONTRROLLING HIM.......LIKE I SAID MAYBE SOMEBODY SHOULD HOOK HIM UP WITH A MAN.

[angelnmo]

Well, be thankful. There are worse things than getting a jumpoff preggers. You could have contracted AIDS.

[destini1969]

And you sure that's better than getting a jump off pregnant? Look at Magic Johnson, he's survived the illness and is looking great at his age!