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Post by gemmani on May 29, 2008 17:22:43 GMT -5
Lol Destini, I'm starting to realize how dense she is. Your are right, her BD is very smart to have gotten away from all that. But its okay, people have to tell themselves certain things in order to make themselves feel better. She has the right to believe she is intelligent and mature, even when her posts prove otherwise. I'm done arguing with nobody.  |
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Post by youknowwhatitis on May 29, 2008 17:37:23 GMT -5
The proof is in the pudding ladies I am doing just fine, me and my child. I don't have anything to prove to YOU or anybody else. Think what you wish.....when it all boils down I'm am still right and YOU are still wrong. People only attack greatness which is what I know that I am and you are right gemmani bd made a great decision to get the hell of my life and give me access to his money. So I agree with you 100% about that. Anything else you have to say is all a crock of sh*t. My track record speaks for itself....I don't have to ask nobody for anything and their choice only makes them look bad honey NOT me and ANYONE with real intelligence and insight knows that. I win my fights and go war when I battle and like I will repeat.......I was right about you not having any game simple chick. I beat BD not the other way around and I'm still having my cake and eating it too. My bf is great father to my son so he's not missing out on anything. So go ahead and follow Destini dum run up in behind a man believe everything he say so desperate to keep a man self says. Unlike you ladies I'll never put up with a man with BMD there are 50 states and all of them have men in them. God works in mysterious ways and I know when he's at work in my life that's why things for me are turning out just fine. And at the end of this year they'll be even better. So hate all the while......I'm still winning and grinning.. stop hating cause you know it's the truth. All your bashing in the world can't crack my self-esteem and just plain faith in God and myself. Don't claim to be perfect but I am and always will be A BAD B*TCH...ain't took a loss yet.
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Post by nomoredrama on May 29, 2008 18:04:36 GMT -5
Keia, you know I'm tripping off you right now??  . You are TOO much. All I can say is, "you go girl!" You can talk some smack! ROFL! You guys & girls, Keia just wants to debate. Don't argue with her. She knows what buttons to push. Just push back. A debater loves a great debate. |
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Post by JunieB on May 29, 2008 21:56:40 GMT -5
It seems to me, Keia1, that you have already lost. Who REALLY wants to raise their child alone without the father present. Children need their fathers. The sad part about this is that you don't realize that your actions may cost your male child.
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Post by gemmani on May 30, 2008 10:05:52 GMT -5
Well said JunieB. I do hate the fact that BM is grimey, youknow is right about that. The difference is, other than the grime, which we stick in the corner, we have an amazing relationship. She's the one that wants him back. I can understand why. But even all this bs can't take away from my "happy place". As for youknowwhatitis, JunieB made a good point. No matter how good of a mother you are, your child needs his dad. He's not your paycheck, he's a human being. So keep talking trash. It's so entertaining |
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Post by whenwillwomenlearn on Jun 8, 2008 3:29:58 GMT -5
Wow-over $600 per week. Does your finance owe back child support? Your fiance must be making over $100,000 per year if he is paying almost $35,000 per year in child support. Talk about being cheaper to keep her. In NYC, the child support obligation for 3 children is 29% of the combined parental income. I highly doubt that the BM is lazy. It takes a lot of energy to deal with 3 children. You are letting your emotions speak for you instead of common sense. Your fiance has 3 very young children who are not going away. Did your fiance leave the BM for you? Is she the ex-wife? Is the amount he is paying alimony too? Something is not right with this picture. The courts are usually harder on the man who walks out on the family for another woman. Are you the other woman? If so remember that what goes around comes around.
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Post by gemmani on Jun 9, 2008 10:49:26 GMT -5
No missy, I am NOT the other women, no, she was NOT his wife. He was giving her money when he left, she filed for child support after she heard about me. She lied and brough false documents to court (we know for a fact they are fake, and came to court with the evidence. The judge told her that her credibility is shot, but still proceeded to award her that amount.)
THAT"S MY POINT: He does NOT make 100k, he's giving her over half of his paycheck. THAT'S WHY I'M POSTING HERE. Don't proceed to tell me that I am talking from emotion. Everything I am saying is based on facts. I do my research. SO, mind your business sweetie. Don't give me your (worthless) opinion unless you know what you are talking about.
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Post by hybridmommy on Jun 10, 2008 18:35:25 GMT -5
The men made bad decisions and now they are having to pay for it. As my first post to this board I had to respond to this.... Was it only the men that made the "bad decision" or was there a female involved as well? The mentality that someone has to "pay for it" is the root of the problem in almost every CS situation. It's not about the children when this mentality is followed. In this context it's not about money required to support the child(ren), it's about punishment of the father for not catering to the whims of the scorned woman - an ultimate marker of a Baby Mamas mentality. When the birth of a child leads to punishment for the father, usually when that father had no say in the decision to procreate intentionally or continue the pregnancy, they no longer are considered a child - they become a mistake. You might want to rethink your views on that one. (And hi all, nice to be here! ) |
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Post by gemmani on Jun 11, 2008 10:02:13 GMT -5
Again, well said hybridmommy. Welcome to the board, I like you already! |
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Post by nomoredrama on Jun 19, 2008 2:51:03 GMT -5
When the birth of a child leads to punishment for the father, usually when that father had no say in the decision to procreate intentionally or continue the pregnancy, they no longer are considered a child - they become a mistake. I disagree with this comment. I would not EVER call a child a mistake. I don't care of the BM tied the father down & syphoned his sperm with a turkey baster. Children are a BLESSING. But men need to take more responsibility in ensuring that the woman they are sleeping with does not become pregnant. Too often men leave the birth control up to the women. Men need to learn that some women can be very deceitful. Just because a woman "says" she is on the pill doesn't make it reality. And, what about STDs? Men are so horny for sex that they just don't THINK!! I have to include my DH in this...BM #2 took herself off birth control pilss for 2 weeks with the intention of getting pregnant. He was stupid by trusting her word that she was on the pill. He has been dealing with BMD every since. Even still I do not consider his child a mistake. I don't care how much drama DH & I have gone thru with his BMs, I am thankful for his children. |
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Post by gemmani on Jun 19, 2008 9:46:32 GMT -5
The situation was the mistake, tellit. That situation should have never took place. The outcome- the child- isn't a mistake. I guess when (in SOME situations) the BD did not intend to have a child and BM "tricks" him, the BD has a hard time dealing with the fact that the child is now HERE, b/c they are still pissed that they were tricked. Unfortuantely, some DO consider the child a mistake. BMs who decide to have a baby through those means better recognize the consequences that go along with it. It may not be right, but if I were a man in that situation, I would be hella mad, and I might have issues with a child that I didn't want in the first place, and the coniving-a$$ momma. I KNOW that isn't right or politically correct, but those would be my honest feelings.
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Post by nomoredrama on Jun 19, 2008 10:13:13 GMT -5
I am not saying that the BM is right by any means. Men just need to learn to think with their big head and not the small one when it comes to sex. Unfortunately, my DH learned that the hard way. He was young when SD was born...Young and dumb. His BM was "available" to him for sex, so he would "hit it" when she offered it. But then she "hit" him by intentionally getting pregnant. AFTER we married, BM had nerve enough to tell my MIL that she wanted to have another baby with my DH because she did not want to have two children with different fathers. DH had wised up by that time. We joke about it now. She fooled him once, shame on her. She will never get the opportunity to fool him again. ;D
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Post by gemmani on Jun 19, 2008 10:43:46 GMT -5
Lol, lessons of the wise......
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Post by wowposter on Sept 8, 2008 19:50:22 GMT -5
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. You are TOO much. All I can say is, "you go girl!" You can talk some smack! ROFL!