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Post by gemmani on Jul 10, 2009 15:35:17 GMT -5
Denver~
Don't bother speak rationally to this man. We've said this stuff over and over and he just continues to cry and whine about his BM. He's all talk and absolutely no action. Basically a wuss.
I do agree with him needing therapy, though.
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Post by hunter on Jul 11, 2009 0:08:18 GMT -5
I'm far too lazy to address all the comments that have been directed towards me. But, i will alleviate your concerns, "gemmani", "denvergirl", et al., by stating that I never once judged any of you personally because I do not have that type of relationship with any of you. All I did was criticize your actions, just as many of you have criticized my own actions towards my BM. I've only stated my beliefs, regardless of how misconstrued they may appear to you all, just as you all have stated your own beliefs. In my opinion, many of you all's "drama" (read: PROBLEMS) are of your own making (and so are mine since I failed to see the red flags) because you all chose to be in relationships with men that already had children. Frankly, I feel that a woman deserves better. She should respect herself more and find herself a man who doesn't come with drama and hasn't made blunders of epic proportion in his past. This has been fun.  |
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Post by ty1981 on Jul 11, 2009 15:39:13 GMT -5
Hunter you are an idiot. Many of us have learned to set boundaries and that's why we don't have anymore drama. You on the other hand, lack the intelligence and motivation to fix your problem. Furthermore, our DH's, SO's made mistakes in the past. Your BM was a HOE while she was with you. Maybe you should have respected yourself more.
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Post by gemmani on Jul 11, 2009 19:21:42 GMT -5
LOL.....My "drama" is basically non-existant. We are well versed in handling whatever BM throws our way.
It's a shame. He still won't even acknowledge that he does absolutely nothing to improve his daughter's situation. Many forms of deadbeats out there......
Good luck while you are basically pimping out money in exchange for an hour with your daughter.....hope that works out.
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Post by hunter on Jul 14, 2009 1:00:55 GMT -5
Hunter you are an idiot. Many of us have learned to set boundaries and that's why we don't have anymore drama. You on the other hand, lack the intelligence and motivation to fix your problem. Furthermore, our DH's, SO's made mistakes in the past. Your BM was a HOE while she was with you. Maybe you should have respected yourself more. Aren't you supposed to be ignoring me, moron? |
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Post by hunter on Jul 14, 2009 1:02:56 GMT -5
LOL.....My "drama" is basically non-existant. We are well versed in handling whatever BM throws our way. It's a shame. He still won't even acknowledge that he does absolutely nothing to improve his daughter's situation. Many forms of deadbeats out there...... Good luck while you are basically pimping out money in exchange for an hour with your daughter.....hope that works out. I'm not a deadbeat. I provide for my daughter and her lazy mother. I provide for my aging mother. Your husband's the deadbeat dad. He has 3 kids by a woman with whom he won't even raise them with. Sending a check every month isn't being a father -spending time with your children and raising them with morals, values, character is what makes a father. |
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Post by hunter on Jul 14, 2009 1:05:02 GMT -5
A woman that bears your child, is a woman that has the right to be in your life and expect to be taken care of and provided for since a child is the greatest, most cherished gift, a woman can give to a man. Too bad your BM doesnt feel the same way  She's confused because she tries too hard to "fit in" with the ghetto culture that has been infused into mainstream Americana by the liberal media. I don't blame her -I blame the ghetto men she put up with before she met me and how they treated her. |
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Post by gemmani on Jul 14, 2009 13:55:59 GMT -5
Go away Hunter. You are totally useless. What you say means SH!T because you're a loser.
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Post by slick on Jul 26, 2009 14:11:04 GMT -5
Dag Hunter I was feeling your position.....except for how your love has blinded u from seeing that your BM (as misled and misguided as she may have BEEN) is grown and SHOULD be fully capable of recognizing bad, wanting better and accepting nothing less than that (especially when better is right there in front of her, right Hunter?) *lips turned up*
Just as u r unable to provide ur daughter ur Americana, because her mother doesn't love you because she is a "victim of bad love from ghetto men".....the men in some of our lives were blocked from providing an intact home for their kid(s). Will u stay 1 hr/day Dad all ur daughter's life? Or will you please wake up and evolve with the rest of humanity? I'm sure ur BM really digs this arrangement, but do u?
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Post by denvergirl on Dec 13, 2009 13:27:05 GMT -5
I am in a pretty serious relationship with my boyfriend and we are expecting our first child together. He has a two year old son from a women he was with for several years. Adjusting to this new life hasn't been easy for me or him and of course his son. I have had problems with the BM since day one. She tried moving back in saying she and the son had no where to go. (She doesn't work and has never really worked, because he supported her for years.) She sends text messages from random phones (since hers was turned off) or from the Internet talking crap about me or saying she misses him and will do whatever it takes to get him back. We've talked alot and I know he is devoted to me and our baby. I support his decisions when taking the son with us. And I know eventually we'll go to court for custody. But what bothers me are these text messages. How do I put a stop to them? He doesn't respond and says he doesn't want to argue with her. But in my mind how hard is it to lay down the law and say stop with the text messages and face reality I am not coming back and the only reason you're still around is my son? I feel like he is the one who has to put a stop to it. Am I right or wrong? FOR THE RECORD MY FIRST POST! |
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Post by denvergirl on Dec 13, 2009 13:27:34 GMT -5
Denver~ Don't bother speak rationally to this man. We've said this stuff over and over and he just continues to cry and whine about his BM. He's all talk and absolutely no action. Basically a wuss. I do agree with him needing therapy, though. And here I was being defended. |
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Post by brittany on Dec 14, 2009 11:11:31 GMT -5
I am pretty sure guys just dont see things the way us women do and in my case it seems they rather just avoid the drama and act as if it doesnt exist maybe even. You have to really let your SO know how you feel about it and that it bothers you so. If he is looking out for your best interests as he should, he will handle that. |
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