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Post by awsomalx on May 23, 2008 21:13:12 GMT -5
Hey awsom, just curious . Would you consider yourself a paycheck dad. Whereas you pay cs only and because of the childish behavior of the bm have distanced yourself from your her which includes the child(ren)? Yep Yep, just a "paycheck" Dad now and more likely then not, until my wards of the state are of age. There's not enough bandwidth/space in cyberworld for me to cover all the craziness that woman has displayed. There is no single thing that she did/does out of context................It's all just her! She's literally unstable, she a few inches from the door of psychotic. There was never any lost trust. She has done everything I expected her to do. She's actually quite predictable and nothing she tries/does surprises me. I do all I can to avoid any and all contact with her and/or anything involved with her. Pretty much the same way I don't respond to post of that Keia1, LOL or whatever she chooses to call herself from day to day. They show the lopsidedness of the court system every single time they post (especially when she/they brag on how much money some man is coerced to pay them). |
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Post by nomoredrama on May 24, 2008 18:32:17 GMT -5
I always feel bad for the children when I hear about paycheck dads. In the end, the children suffer due to their father's absence. Fathers have so much to contribute to their children's lives.
I posted before that my mom & dad were never married. My mom was a crazy baby mom (no offense). I love my mom with all my heart, but my mom tried a lot of the baby mama drama stuff when I was younger. She kept my dad away from me for the first 5 years of my life. My dad was finally allowed visitation with me. My mom used to try to coerce my dad into arguments when he came to pick me up for visitations. She used to tell me stories about how my dad use to physically abuse her. She told me never to be alone with my dad because he was going to sexually abuse me. Basically, my mom had me petrified of my father.
My dad never responded to my mom's antics. He would speak to her when he came in to visit me and when he left. We would go off for the weekend and have a great time. My dad not once tried to touch me inappropriately. Even though he paid monthly child support, he still spoiled me rotten. He was very protective of me. My dad and I talked about almost EVERYTHING (sports, politics, school, life, the weather, you name it). He was my best friend. My dad has passed away now but I thank God that he loved me enough to do all that he could to be a part of my life. My dad is the reason I know how much value men can contribute to their children's lives.
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Post by youknowwhatitis on May 24, 2008 21:48:20 GMT -5
Deadbeat dads are "paycheck dads" and they are only doing that because they are forced. You don't see your kids because you don't want to because you resent them because they are an EXPENSE. The truth is the light.
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Post by ondareal on May 24, 2008 21:50:19 GMT -5
To you awosomalx your kids weren't worth it. How low life is THAT?
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Post by memyslfni on May 25, 2008 12:26:20 GMT -5
I dont blame u awsom, If I was a bd I wouldnt deal with a CBM's bullcrap either. Especially when they are as close minded, evil, selfish....and so on and so on. Hey youknowhatitis, You must be just as dumbfounded as the rest of "em". What man wants for his kids to have to endure watching "mom" verbally and sometimes physically abuse their dad because of her selfish/hateful ways...THE LIGHT IS SHINING!...if you opened ur eyes u just might see it..  |
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Post by nomoredrama on May 25, 2008 16:39:58 GMT -5
I agree partially with you memyself. I was not raised by my mom or my dad. I looked forward to my dad visiting with me on the weekends, but I hated when my mom was at the house when my dad visited. I knew that she was going to try to goad him into an argument and it used to scare me. Not because my dad was violent, but because I had seen my mom become violent with others, so I did not want to see her trying to fight my dad.
I am in my 30s now but I still remember the tension between my mom and dad. My dad did a great job of ignoring her. Like Awsomlx, he acted as though my mom did not exist. He never spoke to me about my mom although my mom was more than happy to bash my dad to me. My mom's insistent bashing and my dad's refusal to speak badly about her made more protective of my dad.
I believe that if the men want the children in their lives, a few hurt feelings should not keep the father away. In the end, the children will develop their own conclusions about the mom and the dad. I never saw any of the man that my mom told me that I would see. All I saw was a wonderful man who did everything humanly possible for his child. I also saw that my mom was bitter and angry towards my father. My mom still harbors resentment against him and he has been dead for over 10 years. The horrible thing is that my father was the only one of her children's fathers (she has 5 BDs) who stuck around to take care of his child. Yet my mom seems to hate him the most. I never understood that one. KWIM??
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Post by youknowwhatitis on May 25, 2008 19:53:20 GMT -5
If awsomalx wanted to see his kids he would. He doesn't want to it's not about the mom he's using her as escapegoat. He doesn't like her because she knows the truth about how he REALLY feels about his children and his responsibility to them. He could always pursue visitation or visit them after school. He is giving her ammunition to poison their minds about him with. Sad part is she is probably right.
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Post by destini1969 on May 25, 2008 19:53:25 GMT -5
Keia1 is back, but this time as youknowwhatitis (very transparent).
Prior to meeting my current DH I never understood/believed that BMD exists! I always thought it was the BD making their lives difficult. I NOW understand how low and evil BMs can be!
When things in life becomes overwhelming it's best to temporarily remove yourself from the situation. Time away will give you the opportunity to re-evaluate your situation and then proceed with the next step.
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Post by youknowwhatitis on May 25, 2008 20:01:04 GMT -5
From awsomalx post he stated " most likely till they are grown will he be a paycheck dad." How pitiful!!!!!!!! What's transparent is the bandwagon some people are riding their sorry ass*s on. Get real. Real men do real things like stand up to adversity and overcome triumphantly. Only boys let some WOMAN run them off from their kids or more than likely use a WOMAN as an excuse as why they've run off from their kids. It's funny to me. WEAK MEN.
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Post by destini1969 on May 25, 2008 20:03:31 GMT -5
Yada...yada..ya,
Okay Keia1 oh, that's right you're Youknowwhatitis today!
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Post by memyslfni on May 25, 2008 20:06:23 GMT -5
I think thats great tellit that you were able to bond with your dad. It was great that you remained open minded about their situation as a child. But for an adult to want to stand in between a child and his father is a cold thing. Dictating when and where they are to see them is one thing, but to degrade/ bd bash is another and sometimes the outcome isnt always for the best of the child. As not all children are as open minded. I grew up watching my parents go through divorce and dont recall my mom bashing my dad (well actually not to that degree). She would basically talk about what he did and didnt do for us but for the most part they went on with their lives, sharing their children...As I had gotten older I noticed that my mothers slight resentment towards my father hadnt affected myself but my older brother fed into it. As he held a grudge towards him until he hit his early twenties and finally gave him a chance. I guess it all depends on the child and the degree of bs that is being fed to them. But when its to the extreme that parents are constantly yelling and cussing at each other, is when I think its best to distance one self. As this is not healthy for child with their parents together or apart  |
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Post by youknowwhatitis on May 25, 2008 20:07:04 GMT -5
Whoever I am ...I'm right everyday....HA HA HA.....
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Post by destini1969 on May 25, 2008 20:15:10 GMT -5
Whoever I am ...I'm right everyday....HA HA HA..... EXACTLY WHY I WILL DISCONTINUE REPLYING TO POST FROM YOU. More importantly.... Memyselfni you are correct, it's horrible for the child to hear BM and BD yell/scream/fight. The child should not suffer in any regard, it was not asked to be brought into this world. It's also great that Tellitlikeitis was able to have such a memorable time with her father prior to is passing. |
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Post by memyslfni on May 25, 2008 20:16:36 GMT -5
Destin, its a waste of time trying to understand a cbm's point of view. Thats all they are and all they ever will be....to bad...so sad...CBM's need to get a life so everyone else can go on with theirs...and when they do, theyll look back and say to their new dh "I was so immature til I met U". Haaaaa
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Post by youknowwhatitis on May 25, 2008 20:18:00 GMT -5
Monkey see monkey do...
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