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Post by memyslfni on May 26, 2008 13:00:27 GMT -5
Its the CBM's that put that very same price tag on their SNATCH that turn right around only to put a PRICE on the child...and it never seems to be enough for them. Always wanting more and will do just about anything to get it..THINKING "OH HE'S GONNA PAY PAY PAY BECAUSE I DIDNT LAY LAY LAY FOR NOTHIN!"  |
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Post by nomoredrama on May 26, 2008 13:07:15 GMT -5
I was just trying to illustrate that each person's perspective is different based on their experiences. Awsomlax has experiences with his BM that we have not IDEA about, so it is not right to attack him.
My DH doesn't start any drama with BM. My DH is not a "drama" kind of man. He lets her live her life and he tries to live his without interference from the BM. BM took the child and ran to a state outside of the continental US (who does that). We don't get to see his child but DH still pays his child support faithfully every month. BM still has tried to start drama but at least with her being so far away, the drama is not "in your face" any longer. Although I am sad that we don't get to see his daughter, the BM moving actually turned out to be blessing in disguise.
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Post by alissa on May 26, 2008 13:23:53 GMT -5
That mentality probably stems from hurt feelings and umet expectations. Call it what you want but that is how it is and probably how it will continue to be until people understand that as women and men we must define expectations early in a relationship so it doesn't lead to drama and hurt feelings. Also people need to stop running game and be real and clear.
Taking the the child out of the US are feelings have went from being hurt to just plain being vindictive. But you are right tellit God does work in mysterious ways. Why be her miserable company.
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Post by goddess on May 26, 2008 13:27:55 GMT -5
It is not right to attack anyone. The attack has been a 2 way street. They both have experiences we know nothing about so is it right to attack either party. However both must review their circumstances and learn to do and be better from it. Not use it to verbally beat down each other with. Also the comment about the "bastard" child. Was just plain classless and ignorant.
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Post by nomoredrama on May 26, 2008 13:36:40 GMT -5
My mom and dad were never married, so in the technical sense, I am a "bastard" child. Heck, let's be real, a lot of us are. I never gave much though to it. But, God doesn't make any junk. I am here for a reason and a purpose. We are all here for a purpose. Some of us just take a litte longer to figure out what the purpose is.
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Post by destini1969 on May 26, 2008 13:43:16 GMT -5
According to my DH's BM, he told her upfront what to expect from the friendship/relationship. They became intimate and a child was born. In the beginning he paid child support directly to her and didn't have a problem picking up his child as long as he played by her rules. When she found out he was in a serious relationship, she became even more crazier. HE TRIED HIS BEST TO PROTECT ME FROM THAT GIRL, I will give him that! But the girl (because a woman wouldn't behave that way) called cursed me out, called my daughter, called his family/friends, stole money out of his bank account, drive-bys, etc. She has done everything possible to get a reaction from him, but he hasn't budged. Paying child support isn't a problem, never has been and never will be.
Right now, it's best that he remove himself from that situation with BM.
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Post by destini1969 on May 26, 2008 13:45:52 GMT -5
It is not right to attack anyone. The attack has been a 2 way street. They both have experiences we know nothing about so is it right to attack either party. However both must review their circumstances and learn to do and be better from it. Not use it to verbally beat down each other with. Also the comment about the "bastard" child. Was just plain classless and ignorant. The comment about the bastard child remains, because that's exactly what a child is when born out of wedlock. You really don't have to like my choice of words! You really don't, I stand by what I say. Ignorance and lack of class is never an issue for me! |
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Post by nomoredrama on May 26, 2008 13:55:03 GMT -5
Destini, CBMs are typical aren't they? DH realized that he had to protect me from BM after she attacked me. BM has attempted to curse me out but I don't respond to her stupidity. BM called my dad before he passed. DH learned not to respond to her stupidity. As a last ditch effort, the fool moved the child to AK! I think she expected DH to beg her to stay or chase behind her. It did not happen, so BM commenced to calling DH and being nasty, emailing him expressing her anger, being nasty/rude to me....That is a drastic step to get some attention but my DH's BM did it. Her child is her bargaining chip that she tries to use to the fullest.
Like ther time we refused to pay for the child's plane ticket to come to her mom's family reunion, BM sent DH email saying that she was not going to tell him that the child was coming home because she was so ANGRY with him (yatta, yatta, yatta). The BM took the child to AK and refused to allow the child to visit with us after she got over there. The she wanted to come home to visit but could not afford to. Whose fault is that? If the BM had thought about saying, if you pay for the ticket, the child can stay with you for the summer, we would have considered paying for the ticket. No! She wanted us to pay for the ticket like fools so that she can come home to her family reunion. Even though we offered to pay for half of the plane ticket, it wasn't good enough. She wanted all or nothing. That has been the key to her drama, ALL OR NOTHING. If she could not have ALL of my DH, he could not have NOTHING to do with his child. How selfish is that?!!
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Post by destini1969 on May 26, 2008 13:59:40 GMT -5
How sad! And people wonder why BDs don't want to involve themselves emotionally with CBMs.
I hope DHs child will come around once she becomes of age.
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Post by goddess on May 26, 2008 14:23:07 GMT -5
Is not that serious destini you need to take a chill pill and stop insulting people's children regardless of their circumstances it's just plain rude.
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Post by tellitlikeitreallyis on May 26, 2008 14:25:57 GMT -5
Some of the negativity I can sense from some member's post make me wonder why some of the BM's don't want their children involved with you? May awsomalx children are better off without him in their life.
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Post by destini1969 on May 26, 2008 16:50:06 GMT -5
Is not that serious destini you need to take a chill pill and stop insulting people's children regardless of their circumstances it's just plain rude. Again, goddess, if you don't like what/how I say things don't read it. A bastard is a person born of unmarried parents; an illegitimate child, it's as simple as that. It doesn't take away from that child existence, etc. Again, you don't have to like/agree with what/how I say things, not that serious! And Keia1 currently signing in as tellitlikeitreallyis & LOL, grow up! |
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Post by nomoredrama on May 26, 2008 17:25:39 GMT -5
Tellit #2, can you please come up with another nickname? We stand on opposite sides of the fence on some issues and I don't want our posts being confused by anyone. Just like two Keias was confusing, two tellits is as clear as mud. But thanks for the shout out! I appreciate it.
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Post by youknowwhatitis on May 26, 2008 21:24:02 GMT -5
Maybe you need to be telling that to awosomalx. LOL
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Post by destini1969 on May 26, 2008 21:57:07 GMT -5
Maybe you need to be telling that to awosomalx. LOL I am still laughing about you stating Flava Flav was wise! LMBO! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D |
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