BM is hiliarious

[jaylady999]

Aug 27, 2008 7:56:30 GMT -5 gemmani said:

Family day wouldn't be an issue if she were normal. I wouldn't mind it. But I'll be d**ned if BM thinks she can just use my man "for the kids". She can keep her event tickets and dinner reservations (to talk about the kids, of course.) She really feels that I am some passing fad, and that when fiance gets his head straight he'll come back. She's been wishing this for 2 years now.

EXACTLY!

[memyslfni]

Posted by gemmani on Today at 7:56am

"Family day wouldn't be an issue if she were normal. I wouldn't mind it. But I'll be d**ned if BM thinks she can just use my man "for the kids". She can keep her event tickets and dinner reservations (to talk about the kids, of course.) She really feels that I am some passing fad, and that when fiance gets his head straight he'll come back. She's been wishing this for 2 years now."

Sad but Very True....I think the fact that bf has gone back to bm in the past (several times) plays a big part on her wishful thinking that he'll be back eventually...NOT...As long as he chooses to be here and not there...I've suggested he work it out with her several times but this is where he chooses to be. Too bad so sad But she will continue to wait by the window

Youknowwhat had mentioned something about dating a man without kids. Such a silly thing to say but I'm sure there are childless men out there who are more than willing to take care of a woman with a child(ren) but what I dont understand is how can one with a child say such a thing...I've heard people say this repeatedly...what if you run into a guy that fits the description and loves you the way u need to be loved...will your rule still apply? Besides it takes a strong woman to deal with a man with children from a previous relation...And as the saying goes "if the shoe dont fit why wear it?". Have a nice day ;D

[daddyinpdx]

JAYLADY,

That's what's most important in a childs life is that the child can receive genuine love from both parents. I was reading through other post about how "family" day was a day which consists of the BM and BD kicking it with their kids outside of the new spouse.

This is not my definition of what a real family day looks like. Such a practice in my opinion is foul on the part of the BD/BM who allows such foolishness. Family includes the whole enchilada.

I can always see through the smoke screens of my baby momas when I ask them if they would like to join me and my family (wife included) to ice cream after a civic engagement which envolves the kids.

I get that look like fool aint nothen poppen. My 1ST BM is married, I even offered the Husband to join us. I have not an ounce of passion for my BM, but I'm at least cordial. A man must put away childish things.

I would even go as far as sending a few extra dollars outside of my child support to help them with a bill or something (BM#1 and her husband) if I were asked. I feel that GOD has truely blessed my wife and I to the point where we could be a blessing to another.

I say again, if both BD and BM can attend a public function together with new spouses or if one BM or BD has a spouse, then do that thing. You will enjoy yourself.

Your children will see something memorable and delightful between the people they love. These memories will also provide your children with an edge if they were to ever encounter such a horific experience such as Baby Mama Drama.

[jaylady999]

thats exactly right. i couldnt see doing anything with BD and DH not be there, um ugh. LOL. my DH BM has tried in the past to invite him to things and specify that he come alone, so thats why we started doing my stepkids birthdays on our end and let her do her thing. My BD on the other hand, realizes that my husband and i are ONE. he loves us both genuinely. i do realize my blessing in the situation with my sons father