You all CANT be serious!

[therealwife]

Babymama in my sitch has no interest in getting along with me, she never did. Her main goal is to make sure that the identity fraud continues, that the money keeps flowing in (she's mad that because BD has greater financial responsibilities now, he can't send her money whenever she asks), and that at least one of her daughters is her pawn of misery.

I do not want that in my life or my house. It is not my fault I had a son, I'm sorry she wanted to have a boy, but she could have solved that problem by being faithful.

As far as the money issues...now that I'm working FT, if the girls have a need, the money goes to them directly in a manner we can track. Western Union sent directly to them, followed up by a phone call (did it go DIRECTLY to you?) seems to be the best way to do it, as BM knows we've sniffed out the fraud and are being nice by not prosecuting.

I had the interest in dealing with this sitch and with BM as an adult when we first met. She shut that down, and now that I see all the fraud she's committed, now that she keeps using one SD as a pawn (she needs to be protected from me due to one question: who do you think you are...), now that the girls are a few years from 18, and one is probably going to go to college up here while the other can stay with her mama....I have no desire to have this woman in my life.

What I wish for her is happiness. PLEASE re-marry, the dude she's with obviously loves her. Have the life you didn't get with my SO, that way you are so busy being happy you can stop breaking the law. Go live your dreams, and leave us alone. Stop hating my special needs son, he has nothing to do with you. Just go be happy.

Sorry, but this isn't about competition, I don't compete with women or anyone else. I walk the path God put me on, and I concentrate on putting one foot in front of the other. Just surviving health-wise has been the goal of the past three years, I don't have time for petty female games. This isn't about who is better, my faith doesn't operate that way. We're all His, we're all equal, regardless of whether or not a person can realize that.

This is just about peace and quiet, the ability for SO to see his kids without drama, and the mending of his credit due to the $10K plus in identity fraud, so we can buy a house for my little autistic kid to live in someday. That's all!

[fukallbms]

Sometimes all BM need is good ole fashioned can a whup azz opened up on her!!
And what this bullshiit bout it being competition. If you the one wearing the ring you won. DAAM!! it aint no brain surgery.

[Tinainfl]

yavonne,

You are assuming a lot. I knew going in that BM was bitter and hurt that her relationship did not work out, and I knew that it could just take time.

I had dinner with her, and she seemed to be ok with me at first, Until My husband BD started putting some boundaries in place (For example he answered the phone to talk her while looking at wedding rings just in case it was an emergency with the kids.) I said Nothing.. I took my licks and swallowed a lot of pride, more than once I wanted to go old school on her ass, but held my tongue.

My husband was on the phone with her recently she accused him of molesting my daughter, threatening to send a letter to his job attesting to the fact (he is a teacher) And saying how pathetic he was. My husband told her lets stay focused, we don't need to get off track. Spring break, while my husband was buckling the kids in, she told him she was going to go back to court and fight for full custody, Again my husband shrugged his shoulders, came home and sent her a text that she should reserve such comments to email or voicemail not in front of the kids. She went on to call him pathetic and a coward, and that he has an invalid for a wife. (I'm on disability, for cancer) Even after all those attacks in the VM my husband again stayed on topic and told her it wasn't right to do it in front of the boys.

I can honestly say We have been way above board, Almost to the point I get disgusted with my husband because he gets kicked by her like a dog, never says a cross word to her and always backs down, I haven't either... But my time and patience is about thin, 5 years down the road she hasn't remarried and lives with this hate for my husband.

Sometimes, they hate just to hate. I wasn't the other women, I haven't say anything cross to her, But I'm almost ready to end up in handcuffs. She has had her time to heal, move on, act like a entitled psycho.I'm sick of her hurting their children, and my husband.

Like I said, you assume a lot.