Post by gemmani on Sept 26, 2008 7:41:32 GMT -5
I'm 25, my DH is 29, and BM is 26 or 27 (not too sure).
The thing my DH loves the most is a woman that can do for herself and doesn't have to wait for a man to initiate anything. He told me once that being expected to take care of another fully grown, fully capable human being caused his feelings to decrease and also caused resentment. He loves the fact that I don't come to him for things, I'm able to do whatever I need to do whenever I need to do it.
It did attract him at first, though. Kind of like the knight in shining armor, which is a real ego-booster for men. But is does get tired really quickly.
No matter what, I will always continue to work and be able to support myself and help support my family. I'm not looking for a DADDY to take care of me, I have a dad already. BMs are convinced we hate losing our DH's money to child support, but I have a job! I have my own money! I'm not hurting for $$ and neither is my DH. It's amazing what you get used to. Even as a married woman, I don't NEED my DH for anything. And since we are able to enjoy each other without having to "parent" each other, we are very happy. Never underestimate the importance of being independent.
The thing my DH loves the most is a woman that can do for herself and doesn't have to wait for a man to initiate anything. He told me once that being expected to take care of another fully grown, fully capable human being caused his feelings to decrease and also caused resentment. He loves the fact that I don't come to him for things, I'm able to do whatever I need to do whenever I need to do it.
It did attract him at first, though. Kind of like the knight in shining armor, which is a real ego-booster for men. But is does get tired really quickly.
No matter what, I will always continue to work and be able to support myself and help support my family. I'm not looking for a DADDY to take care of me, I have a dad already. BMs are convinced we hate losing our DH's money to child support, but I have a job! I have my own money! I'm not hurting for $$ and neither is my DH. It's amazing what you get used to. Even as a married woman, I don't NEED my DH for anything. And since we are able to enjoy each other without having to "parent" each other, we are very happy. Never underestimate the importance of being independent.